How do i know if he is interested in me as a person, or girlfriend? We are not sleeping together but i know he is attracted to me, i want to be sure he actually cares for me.
2006-11-26 23:37:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and asking strangers makes more sense than asking him. tell me how.
2006-11-26 23:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is you hun that will have to decide and find the real answer to the question you posted. The reason is because it is you that spend the time with him and not us. We here don't know neither him nor you and so we can't judge. But I can tell you one thing, take a good look at his reactions when he's near you. Give a good 'ear' when he speaks. If he seems caring, then he's interested in you as a girlfriend and wants a relationship with you. But if he seems the opposite then you'll have to admit that his interest in you is as a person. But as I've already told you, you are the only one that can judge his interest.
2006-11-27 07:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem like this a couple of months ago - i did sort it out, and now the relationship is alot better for it - basically i denied all sex until i was completely satisfied he liked me for me - which in the end, he did. I think really the telling signs, at least for me, are things like when you ask for his opinion on something, he can answer honestly (shows he can be honest and relaxed around you) and not only that but asks for your opinon. If he listens to what you say to him, and can also remember your thoughts and opinions in conversations, he cares. If you dont call him, will he phone you instead? these are all signs that he is into you as a person - you can only really find out if he is interested in you being his girlfriend from him, but in my opinion you can usually tell.
Word of warning though - guys are not generally very tactical, and do not perform well in "mind games". I would suggest that you dont, for example, not call him for days to see if he does, not go places where he will be to see if he misses you, hint for compliments to see if he gives them - bad moves...it will only result in you being disappointed and him losing interest. Hope this ramble was of help!
2006-11-27 07:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by summa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most relationships start out with only the attraction! Because thats why people ask each other out!
From my experience, the "more" part comes from having experiences together and getting to know each other over time. Theres no such thing as an "instant relationship". You have to grow it over time, and the longer the time, the better it is!
PS, He will never buy the cow, if you give him the milk for free! Know what im saying!?
2006-11-27 07:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by EAT! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known this person? Time is all I can say their is no magic number that tells you it is time to have sex. What do you want from the relationship? How do you see your self what are your goals? Their is nothing wrong with being friends , do you want a boy friend , lover , husband. Look deep into your self life is seldom what you think it is. Time is on Your side don't rush into something before you are ready to make the full commiment and ready to take the consequences of sex.
2006-11-27 07:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by light60302 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, use your female instict.....
time will show....
as you will spend more time together, if you are carefully puting some introspection in the situation, by his general behavior and his behavior in details, soon you will be able to tell what's his real motives....
sometimes there are signs from the beggining about how this relationship will evolve or how he is going to be like a person i a relationship... but it is our fault that we don't want to see sometimes the truth because we don't like it...
once I was in a positin like you.... there were 'signals' I could tell he wasn't interested in me as a person....but I didn't want to face the truth..so i said no I will try..he might me good... and turned to be... that the first instics and judgements were far more correct!
so read the signs and interpete the situation..you can always tell, is just our desire for the person that doesn't let us see the situation objectively....
wish you best of luck and happiness
2006-11-27 07:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Dakini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts with a physical/sexual attraction. I doubt he's already thinking about a long term commitment, it's too soon. If you like him and he likes you, go for it.
Just don't forget to use a condom.
2006-11-27 07:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cares for u, he asks u about ur day ur thoughts about something or ur opinion deeper issues in life and situations and really listens to what u say...and asks questions about u and wants to know more about u..not physically or sexually i mean knowing u what u like and love and hate about life AND people, ur hobbies etc..
if u share hobbies, interests then its more likely to succeed between u
if he looks at ur body when u talk or if he calls u hey sexy or something about the body or physical then its sexual..
if he touches and caress u all the time and doesnt pay attention to what u say to him..
if he comments on ur looks everytime u see him..
2006-11-27 07:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kolera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk about things other than sex? Does he want to know about you as a person? Does he ask you what are the things you like to do?
2006-11-27 08:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Little Miss Sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's an easy one if he only wants you physically then he will want to sleep with you. if you hold out for a while you'll know
2006-11-27 07:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think that you will get a straight up answer. It is simply something you have to feel and know in your heart!
2006-11-27 07:42:10 · answer #11 · answered by Kat A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋