2006-11-26 23:16:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Unfortunately these days you almost expect to hear 'till divorce do we part'.
2006-11-26 23:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says its just a fantasy?? Its possible, I see it all the time. Veiws on marriage like this are the reason people end up in divorce, the reason 2/3 of american marriages end in divorce. I think if you really love someone, "till death do us part" ios not impossible at all
2006-11-27 10:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by DanielleNichole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't believe you will be together forever, than you could change it to " for as long as love lasts." some people who have handfasting ceremonies do this, but i'm sure you could put it in a traditional ceremony as well. just make sure the pastor knows you wish to change it.
actually, a handfasting would be easier. you can pick the time (traditionally handfastings were for a year and a day, as a sort of trial marriage or elaborate betrothal period) now they can be a year and a day, 3 yrs, 9yrs (or any other multiple of 3) as long as love lasts, or forever. it depends on your preference. plus, there is also a ceremony known as a hand parting for those whose relationship was not meant to be, wihc would make it easier to separate(unless you sign a marriage contract. then you would still need a divorce) and no, you do NOT have to be wiccan/pagan to have a handfasting.
however if you don't see the two of you staying together than you shouldn't get married. marraige is a comittment that a couple makes with the intent of it lasting a lifetime and beyond. if you have any doubts to your relationship, hold off on the wedding until you are sure.
2006-11-27 19:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No - people just need to take their vows more seriously. People seem to get married today liek it is a conditional contract or something. People used to get married believing that no matter what happens, they would make it work. Now, people get married and break up for some of the stupidiest reasons. If people took wedding vows as seriously as they should, we would have a lot less divorce.
2006-11-27 12:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It is a whole lot easier to just quit when things are hard and get a divorce, rather that tough it out and stick by your partners side. My wife and I have had some tough times, but at the end of the day, it always ends up, just her and I against the odds. If you believe in your significant other, 'till death do we part, is just the beginning.
2006-11-27 07:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a goal that is hard, but not impossible to reach. If two persons love AND respect each other, and work as a team, this vow can be possible. My parents have been together for 58 yrs, and they are proof that it is not a fantasy.
2006-11-27 07:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dulcinea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 25 years and it is til death for us. We are still very happily married. I love my husband more than I ever did and we've been in love for years.
Don't fight over how to raise the kids, learn to be a UNITED FRONT, remember if mom ain't happy ain't nobody happy, and wives stay sexy and hug and kiss your husbands often. Have a date night no less than every two weeks and for heaven's sake get away together without the kids even if it's just overnight sometimes. Keep the marriage Hot at Home and and you'll have a happy hubby.
And don't buy a bunch of crap you can't afford.
2006-11-27 07:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Myrmaad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, back in the good old days, marrige was a commitment a goal of finding your soul mate, your long life lover / friend-- but in this age of time- too many times divorce because people do not want to deal with problems and fights so the commitment is just not there and its off to court---there are too many lawyers and heads shrinks telling you how to feel and if your partner doesnot follow what they say its off to court-- marriage these days are for getting laid, what you can get from your partner, or what status marriage brings to you-- times have changed and so has the real commitment of marriage to one another
2006-11-27 07:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Suit yourself.
But, there are many who do just this. As a sad example, my real estate agent passed away last week; we were all amazed to learn that he had been married to his high school sweetheart for 52 years.
My husband was a widower, married 51 years.
I stand in awe of people who have a relationship so deep and so meaningful.
2006-11-27 07:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone gets divorced, there are people out there that work hard at their relationships, and are making it work, just because it seems to be the norm these days to bed hop and break up at the first sign of trouble, it doesn't mean that all marriages fail, you are very cynical!!!
2006-11-27 08:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a fantasy for most couples...once they say their vows they are in it for life and that is the way it should be...
2006-11-27 08:25:28 · answer #11 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋