How do I cope with a difficult teenager?

Answer 1

In the immortal words of Admiral Nelson: "The beatings will continue until morale improves"...lol

Answer 2

We could use more info.but there is only one way to deal with your child and that's to deal with whatever that child is telling you.Try to remember your years as a teen and although times have changed,apples don't fall far from trees and usually what ever they are going through,one parent can relate .You must also remember that children look at the world through the eyes of a child and they have limited vision because they haven't lived as long as you and can't for see the consequences of their actions until the consequences hit them in the face.You as a parent try to play interceptor by for warning them but they most times will learn the hard way.As the parent you are their life teacher and that's really all you can do and they must learn the choices they make will make or break them,but you want them to say that at least my parent tried to tell me.after a while that's all you can do.They fall down we help them back up,sooner or later after falling enough they get it.The rapper 2pac said it best,they'll never fully understand until they walk in your shoes,so just do the best job you can and eventually the child will learn or suffer the reactions of their actions.Suffering it is said will bring obedience.I have 5 daughters all grown now and believe me I always thought I did every thing wrong,now that they are mothers they tell me I did every thing right so just do the best you can and some time we have to let the chips fall.Good Luck.

Answer 3

This is serious and it takes up so much energy, teenagers can be extremely difficult. They are not children and they are not adults. They can be demanding and selfish, however as a parent we have to be patient, kind, firm, loving and handle them with care. Ultimately we are still the leader and so we must lead by example, not be hypocritical but show maturity, balance, self-control and self discipline. Try hard to love them unconditionally.........listen carefully and never punish or chastise them in anger or without hearing all the facts.........good luck, the good news is that they grow out of most of it :) :) :)

Answer 4

Love, love and more endless love. Patience, patience and patience. Pray without ceasing. Keep open communications. Counseling if need be. Find a way to enter your teens mind. Find a hobby or interest that you can share together. Talk about what interests him/her and open the lines of communication. If he/she will talk to you about their interest and you build a rapport then when the tough subjects come up they will be close and trusting enough to talk with you. Get a good family and friend support system going. Have sit down meals at the table. Have family get togethers. Have friends over both yours and his/hers. Try to maintain a stable environment. Rememmber to be the parent and not the friend. Kids need strong parents. Disicipline in love and guidance and never in anger or hate. Praise and ancouragement go a long way. This age they need to feel good and it is a tough time. Keep in touch when you were a teen. Be loving and understanding. Pray and follow God. Let God lead your family. Attend church as a family and get involved with other Christian families.

Answer 5

mabey you can use some advise from a teenage point of view. I am 19 and belive me i was a VERY difficult teenager. However i was not lucky enough to have a family that would cope. my mom was a single parent with MANY problems. I was usually left withh grandma while mom partied. I rarley saw my mom.then whaen i turned 12 my mom calmed down and moved back in with my grandma and me. only she wasnt ready to be my mom. she never showed any interst in me at all never cared if i went to school or not(i usually didnt) all of this was just to much and i rebelled. i was always getting into trouble, hanging out with the wrong crowd, i was destructive, setting fires, fighting, drugs you name it i was doing it. Thats when my mom came around only it was to late. she actually started trying to control me but it was to late and that only made things worse and to this day i stiil think she was just afraid i was making her look bad. well i ended up in court, kicked out of school, but that still didnt stop me. the social workers got involved and finally figured out something wasnt right.i was taken from my mom and placed in a residental treatment center. where i tried killing myself and began cutting.my point is sometimes you need to think about why your child is being difficult. im not saying your a bad parent but i know first hand how a teens relationship with parents can destroy them. so maby you should try being more considrate and show more love. but dont never give up try to put youself in your teens shoes and really think about how he or she feels baecuase life is hard for teens today and if you think about all they have to face in daily life mabey you can understand why there so difficult. sometimes being defficult is the only way to survive

Answer 6

Remember Lamaze.....well bring it out....we were taught it when they were born...however we weren't told it would be something we would need forever.....

I have 3 teens....well one that thinks she is 17 and the other two are.

Breath.....and choose your battles carefully or everything will be a battle.

I don't know what you mean by difficult.....

Thinking of mine.....keep your door open for all conversation...tried not to be shocked (they love that) just listen.
You can understand however you don't have to agree....

Let them know even if you disagree on things....there is that Unconditional Love thing...and you're holding it forever.

Make rules together.....have a family meeting and try to compromise and make a list of things that are acceptable and that aren't acceptable and what the consequences will be.

Oh...and always try to be one step ahead.....

good luck
and
best wishes......
you'll make it!

Answer 7

Talking,
Reason,
Applied common sense,
Grounding,
Praise,
The use of Corporal punishment or Major pain,
Duct Tape.

Lets face it ... You can't win, but ya can't loose ...you just have to survive teenagers to truly win. They test you patience, try your nerves and give you gray hair for the trouble you endure.
Great job parenting ...isn't it?

Do the best you can, give of your wisdom and character .... they may not enjoy it now, but will come to love and miss it in the future!

Good Luck !

Answer 8

Cattle Prod.

Answer 9

Tell to others/parents/counsellor who have such experiences. You will find some practical approach to your problem.

Answer 10

Listen and don't yell. I know sometimes that it very hard