I had a one nighter about a year ago. Now i am a new dad. I have no desire to be in a romantic relationship with his mother. I have been trying to be a responsible father. I have been clean and sober since July. I am ready to start dating/relationship again but im having no luck. Is it because i have a new son? Or is it beacause the alchohol is what let me "loosen up" and talk to women?
2006-11-26 22:44:26 · 16 answers · asked by trevathecleva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I find that women are very attracted to a TRULY responsible single dad.
Congrats on being C&S!
And the alcohol only hurt you in the past.
Now you are more selective, you just don't know it.
Relationships rarely start when we want them to.
Concentrate on spending time with your son.(He needs that more than money).
When you least expect it, the relationship will appear!
And any chick that disses you because you have a son to take care of isn't worth your time.
2006-11-26 22:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They care what kind of man you have been, and what kind of man you now are. If you try and explain the child away as a mistake - no woman would like that. But if you explain that this happened, and you are now trying to be a good dad and also be responsible towards the mother of your child, but you weren't ever in a relationship with her - well, that's a little different. You do now carry 'baggage', and any women interested in you will know that you have other priorities than them (and you should have), and that will put some off - but there will eventually be one that accepts your situation for what it is.
You've had a lot of changes in your life recently. Why not put off dating for at least six months and concentrate on sorting your life out and being a good dad?
2006-11-27 06:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by gellhorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really ncie to hear that for a single parent, you seem to be a responsible dad. For your question, I think it depends on the woman's priorities. But I think most women wouldn't care whether you have a child as long as you're a good person and a responsible father. I think losening up a little is not bad if it's too much, it's kind of a turn off. Maybe add a little more control to yourself since you're already aware of it. Good luck!
2006-11-27 06:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by sheer♥black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not so much the child,most women like the idea of the man being a father,but it could be the child's momma.the relationship with his mother could bring drama and many girls stay away from that,many don't care.what ever the story, if the girl you meet doesn't care for your child you run from her right away because whether you and the mom get along or not,regardless to if you have problems being social or not ,this child's welfare comes first and foremost.you must be happy too so don't think that you have to give up being social you don't but you have to bring only good loving people in your life now because your life is no longer just your life.
2006-11-27 06:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol just makes things worse i had a one night stand with an ex of mine nearly 4 years ago and i have a 3 yr old now he is Happy with his gf and I'm happy with mine now. its easy-er for a guy to have a child, as most women have a maternal instinct and accept the child just give it some time you'll get back in the swing in no time (no need for the alcohol!)
and find yourself a GOOD woman.
2006-11-27 06:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by dingu_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the alcohol has a lot to with it could the baby most women love baby so stay clean and sober and the right one well come along so good luck to you
2006-11-27 06:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope sure don't ..... i think it shows responsibility and maturity (that is if they have something to do with their kid) it was proly the alchohol its ok to have a few drinks while ur out thats not going to effect you being a dad. good luck
2006-11-27 06:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you sound unfaithful to some women maybe..well keep trying if you really have no feeling for your son's mother!
2006-11-27 06:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't care and I think that a man with a child makes them even more sexy. If a girl likes you enough then they won't care that you have a child.
2006-11-27 06:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by blacknessforeverandever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, I think they find it more likable although sad. As long as your yourself, and you're responsible, they'll love you. The alcohol is a dangerous thing though.
2006-11-27 06:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋