The problem is, we haven't had sex for seven weeks and it has been like this through out our relationship. I have spoken to him about it and he say that there is nothing wrong. Please help
2006-11-26 22:25:35 · 32 answers · asked by Hey there 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's his libido honey, not you!!
I bet your asking yourself these questions:-
1. Why dosn't he fancy me anymore?
2. Does he still love me?
3. Is he having an affair?
4. Is he gay?
I know I do, my husband is the same.
Antidepressants, Alcohol, recreational drugs & even smoking can lower a mans libido, so it's nothing to do with you.
He does love you and their is trully nothing wrong when he says that, try getting some vitamin supplements from a health food shop or even online. Zinc is good for the Libido!
Good luck,
x
2006-11-26 22:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There obviously is something wrong but maybe he's embarrassed to talk about it....?
Maybe try seducing him one night. Make it a night all about him. Make him feel like the sexiest man alive and also the luckiest...
If that doesn't work then try talking to him again, don't argue, just talk. Tell him how you feel, your needs, how you love him, want to feel close to him, Try and coax him into opening up about whatever is holding him back. Tell him you're worried something is wrong.
If it's always been like this it could be he's shy, or has a low sex drive... Maybe by you initiating the proceedings he might follow suit?
Although i agree that relationships are much much more than just sex a sexual relationship is an important factor in a happy balanced relationship so if you've already tried the above and you feel nothing is working then suggest couples counselling.
2006-11-26 22:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the answer might be that either you are stressed or both of you get so tired and ...... but to be honest there might be a problem coz atleast one of you should atleast me starved. Are you loosing you feelings for each other? Is he getting it else where? Is he medically okay? If you can answer this then you are half way the problem
Probably leave home and go somewhere exciting maybe that will rekindle it.But watch it men are different from us women its so unlike that he hasnt longed for it in that whole while dont be fooled. Sex doesnt come so easily with women if you want your man try to aleast lure him from time to time maybe you will also find it interesting in a while.If you dont have children try to have in the kitchen, sitting room so that it can be more exciting and worth looking forward to.
Or it might be normal never know but if a woman well experienced gets a hold of your man that might be it or even vice verser for you cos if he is touching you right there will be noway of not having it atleast once e a week.
2006-11-26 23:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seven weeks?! Yes sex isn't everything but it is an important part of a relationship. Don't turn into an issue but tell him you enjoy him and you need more than once every seven weeks. Ask him what his attitude to sex is. Perhaps he does not believe he performs well, perhaps his formative years involved learning unhealthy attitudes to sex. Listen love and be there for him but let him know your needs. It may well be that he needs you to make the advances.
2006-11-26 22:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably depressed and is feeling like less of a man. Is he working? Does he have friends? Does he go out with those friends? If he isn't doing any of those things then he is depressed which would account for the low sex drive. I went through that same problem with my husband. He just needed a life. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-11-26 22:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of these is going on with him:
1 - He is no longer interested in you
2 - He is seeing someone else
3 - He is gay
4 - He has alot on his mind
Ask him again what his problem is, and any bloke that doesn't want to get some booty when it is on a plate definately has a problem, and if he avoids the question tell him that you want a break. His reaction should tell you what is wrong with him. Also this should make him realise what a fine piece of *** he is about to lose and prompt him into giving you a good seeing to. If I am correct he should eat you for a least 30 mins before he wants you in all YOUR favourite positions :-)
2006-11-26 23:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that he is depressed. Is he having a hard time at work? A lot of people might say that he could possibly be cheating, but you don't want to jump to conclusions, because if you confront him and he's not, then you will just end up making things worse. Try talking to him about how he's feeling and find out if there's anything worrying him. It also might be medical, there are lots of reasons that he could have gone off sex. You definately need to talk to him. Good luck!
2006-11-26 22:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by kb1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u tried initiating sex? What about romancing him? Cook him his favourite meal, have a couple of glasses of good wine, and then give him a sensual massage.
He may be tired, does he work long hours?
He may be depressed, talk to him about any problems he might not be sharing with u
What about going away either for a holiday or a long weekend. There is nothing like a bit of sunshine to perk people up
2006-11-26 22:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by rachel d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either he is cheating on you, so he doesn't need sex from you, something is wrong with him, or he just isn't in the mood for sex. If he isn't cheating on you, I would say tell him to go to the doctor, there could be something wrong with him physcially or even mentally which is decreasing his sex drive. If that isn't the case, then you will just have to deal with the fact that he has a lowered sex drive, it happens. Try and spice your guys sex life up, make it more interesting and fun, he might be more interested then. Good luck.
2006-11-26 22:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like your boyfriend in some ways. I don't always enjoy having sex on the regs but not to go without it for that long. I think you definatley need to speak with him about this. Tell him you feel like he's pushing you away and you don't want to be pushed away from him but you feel there is no passion in your relationship. And if that doesn't work wait till he gets home and walk out of the bedroom naked and go and sit on his lap if that doesn't work then there is definatley something wrong.
2006-11-26 22:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋