How do I tell my mom and my family that I am pregnant? whats the best way?-
I have always grown up in a christian home and although I respect the whole marriage and then have children I have discovered that I am pregnant an not married!+ the fact that I am still quite young and working in a fulltime job. I dont know how to tell anyone in my family especially my mom and dad!-an then theres my big brother and sister who are just gonna have a fit. I am in a 2 years+ relationship with my partner which is going alrite at the moment. I mean even his mom knows about the baby but she is absolutely over the moon about things and cant wait until he or she is born. I know that my mom will probably feel that way once she has calmed down but I just dont know how to break it to her. I feel i cant really say it to her face and Ive thought about using the phone but any way I look at doing it, it has to be done because this is just adding extra stress on my head which I just dont need.-so please I wel
2006-11-26 22:24:58 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell her face to face, the longer it goes on it will stress you and the baby out, your parents sound like they would be supportive.
2006-11-26 22:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dazman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write a letter, that way you can communicate a well thought out decision to her. don't forget to add in what you plan to do with the baby once it is here (daycare if you are going back to work etc) if they are christian then an abortion is way worse than having a blessing and it is a blessing you are young but not an idiot if you have been working full time for a year good for you, let her know you are aware of the responsibility of a child and that you are looking forward to being a mother, and then say that you hope you can count on her support as she has been a great mother and you respect her knowledge, stay strong and confident don't say sorry or act like you regret it, in 9 months this will all be over and you will have the best thing your life happen to you and you BF.
2006-11-27 00:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a grandma confide in her. If not, do as follows.
Write a note, put it in an envelope, and hand it to your mom on your way out to work. Tell her to read it after you've left. And say to her : "We'll talk about it in the evening when I'm back."
Your mom and dad will at first be distraught and may try to ring you at work. Instruct the telephonist not to transfer any call from them to you. (I hope you're not the telephonist. If you are, skip work for a day and go to the movies, and give a suitable instruction to your replacement.)
The few hours will give your mom and dad time to reflect, and they will cool down, and may even be quite accepting of the situation, by the time you're back. These hours should also give you time to decide (with your boyfriend) what you want to do about the baby. Since his mother is ecstatic I assume you'll keep the child. Discuss the issue of marriage. You must be prepared with a plan of action when you meet your parents in the evening.
DO NOT BRING YOUR BOYFRIEND IN FOR THE FIRST DISCUSSION. HE CAN COME IN A LIITLE LATER, PERHAPS THE NEXT DAY.
Make it clear to your brother and sister that they have no say in the discussion or the decision unless they have something constructive to contribute, and should stay out of it. They will just have to accept what you and your parents decide.
Later, when things have sorted themselves, and they will, you can get the two moms and dads (the would-be grandparents) together, and I'm sure things will turn out happily for all.
2006-11-28 04:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 15 years old. My brother had only just broken the news to my parents that his 15 year old girlfriend was also pregnant, so obviously i was petrified. I loved my parents so much, especially my mum, and i knew this would really hust and upset her, and this was the last thing i wanted to do. I was 4 months gone by the time i finally plucked up the courage to tell my mum. The thing that she was most upset (apart from the fact that i was only 15!) was that i had kept it from her and told my boyfriends mum before her. I think honesty is always the best policy in this situation. You need your mums support. At first she will probably be upset and disappointed, but you are still her daughter and once she gets used to the idea i'm sure she will be over the moon. Good luck!
2006-11-26 22:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by kb1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are scared why you don't give your mum and card saying congratulations on becoming a grandmother and give it to her when it's just you and her in the house no other people around. I think that she will take it better if it's just the two of you and not more people around. Also I don't think that you should tell her that your partner's mum knows about the baby just yet, as she might feel hurt that you decided to tell her first.
Hopefully by you giving her the card when no-one else is around this will give you both the chance to talk about things, before you tell the rest of the family.
2006-11-26 22:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you tell your mom the better. She will be upset if you keep putting it off and then finds out later. I'm sure she'll support you and keep right on loving you through this. You are after all an adult now. And you've had a long relationship with your boyfriend. I hope it all works out between the two of you. Have you considered marriage to him? During the early stages of pregnancy, it is not good to be stressed out over anything, that can really affect the development of your baby. So please tell her now.
2006-11-26 22:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the longer you leave this the worse it is going to be. be honest with your family and i'm sure they will be supportive. i was 18 with my first child on the way and telling people was hard but once i tld them they were over the moon that another baby was coming in the family. my parents supported me and let me live at there house rent free which allowed me to give up work and look after the baby. i hope your parents are as support and anyway if there are not turn to you boyfriend i'm sure he will help you. at the end of the day your parents are christian so they should be forgiving. good luck with the baby and enjoy life.
2006-11-27 01:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breath........
How did his Mom find out? Did you tell her?
I know as a Mom....If and when this happened I would ask questions....What are your plans,?Are you happy? How does your boyfriend feel? Are you going to Marry?Do you live at home?This certainly puts a turn on things.....be ready for the questions....I know there isnt a perfect answer for each question however having a answer & staying calm will show your maturity and that you are thinking about it.
In the end..... a Baby is a miracle and your parents will be grandparents and thats it....
Take one step at a time....it will work out.
Another thought if you print this out leave it hanging out of your purse, on your dresser.....break the ice so to say...however be ready for the convo first...
Best wishes
2006-11-26 22:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I fell pregnant with my daughter, like you I was petrified to tell my parents. I felt I had let them down so much. My partners mum Knew for about 2months before I told my parents. You must tell them as soon as you can and tell them together I told my mum first and let her tell my dad he was more hurt that I hadn't told him than the fact that I was pregnant. They were upset but it was because they were worried about me and wanted the best for me and the main reason was because they thought my partner was a ******** and they were rt. They helped me a lot and where in the hospital waiting for my daughter to be born they love her so much and are amazing gran parents. Remember they will always be there for u. I am 24 and married he's not my daughters father but he loves her and she calls him dad and we now have another 2 girls. Please tell them soon and all the best to u and the baby for the future.
2006-11-27 01:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by logan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a plan? it may sound like a business deal but think about what you're going to do while still pregnant and afterwards. i.e., doctors, work, money, living arrangements, marriage, childcare while you work. once your parents have the idea that you can handle it then it will be okay. the fact that you are responsible and follow through should be enough to keep your parents at ease. go to your mom first. moms know first hand and are usually more supportive to decisions when it comes to babies. you sound as thougth your fam situation is great. don't worry. you'll be fine.
2006-11-27 00:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you will just have to tell her, if she goes mad she does but she will come round i am sure, and will relise that the child is a blessing, if she turns funny and is a christian you just tell her, Jesus said suffer unto little children to come unto me. The child has been chosen and is a blessing from God, although you made a mistake in not getting married the child is not a mistake,
The bible makes this perfectly clear.
As for your brothers and sisters, its none of ftheir business but they will love a little one eventually. They will probably come and babysit, expect some uproar. after you tell your mum get out the house quickly to give her time to think about it and cool down. all the best Denise.
2006-11-26 22:47:58 · answer #11 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋