i told him mine the other night, and he would'nt tell me his. He said he don't think we are at that stage in our relationship to do share such thoughts ! i told him i would like us to watch porn togeather. Basically he said no! i know he loves me, but could he be slightly prude or scared. hes 29! we live togeather, what is the harm. I have a higher sex drive than him, what can i do?
2006-11-26 21:58:27 · 12 answers · asked by sweets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Excuse me if I sound a little impolite but I think you have a control issue here! YOU thought it was time to share fantasies; YOU told him you should watch porn together; YOU have a higher sex drive; what can YOU do?
For goodness sake, give the guy a break. Not everyone enjoys fantasies and porn and some people are a little uneasy with that level of intimacy. Listen to him and his needs. He doesn't want that right now. Stop pushing or you will lose him.
2006-11-26 22:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd bet he keeping a secret from you. He is probly afraid that if he tells you his fantasy you will be disgusted. There are some things a lot of guys want that women are generally not so keen on. the thing that gets me is that he does not want to watch porn with you! wow, wish I was in that situation...thats a seperate issue though. If his drive is too low you might suggest a checkup. there could actually be a medical reason.
2006-11-27 06:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by trevathecleva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's shy? Or he heard yours and now he's afraid that his fantasies are too strange and freaky for you to handle? You freaked HIM out? After two years and living together on top of that you are most certainly at the point where discussing your fantasies is normal. Try and coax him into it gently.
2006-11-27 06:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put some porn on the TV while your doing other things, like background music. Dress sexy or go nude at home. Eventually something should catch his eye.
2006-11-27 09:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by so 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can dress in something sexy like boy shorts, cook dinner in them and demand that he tells you. I do it all the time and that works. Tell him that you are as one and do everything in your power to spice up your sex life. Get him on the same sex drive as you. Remember guys love to see womens asses in a pair of dem boy shorts!!!{especially Red}
2006-11-27 06:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cinnamon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with my husband. I don't know if he's lying about his subdued sexual fantasies or if he is just a prude. you're sure he's just not into something freaky and doesn't want you to find out though?
2006-11-27 06:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find out at what stage is your relationship and based on that you will get answers to your question.
2006-11-27 06:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it yourself and he'll probably join you. It's pretty rare for a boyfriend to turn down a sexual experience when it's happening basically right then...
2006-11-27 06:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its about time to share your fantasies. Maybe he's too embarrased to discuss them. Maybe he's just to shy. Maybe he thinks they're too weird to talk about. Try to reassure him you won't be judgemental.
2006-11-27 06:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act out yours 1st loosen him up w/ some wine he is maybe afraid of telling you his innermost thoughts
2006-11-27 06:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by txtx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋