My financee gets 3 R&R a year. He is working out of the country. We are suppose to get married in April. For over 2 years I tried to be understanding and stood by. He informed me he is taking this R&R and touring Europe, then going home for a week in England. I will again spend Christmas without him. He told me if he got bored in Germany, he might pop over. I feel I am not here for entertainment for his boredom. I sent him a very nice email telling him, we need to take this time to rethink our relations and our wants and needs. I am a single Mom, he claims to want more children, loves me and wants to settle down, but his actions don't show it. 8 months ago, he took off on R&R to India and Austrailia. I feel neglected and stupid for taking this relationship so serious, when he doesn't.
2006-11-26 21:52:19 · 11 answers · asked by 2cool4fools 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes break up
2006-11-26 21:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is a very vital instrunment in a relationship. i think what you too needs to do is to really sit down and talk to yourselves. Know what you both want in this relationship, dont break up yet with him if you truly love him. patient and endurance is very vital in a relationship. If he cant be there for you and prefers to go on tours, thereby neglecting your needs and your wants. since you will be getting married soon tell him how you feel and know his reaction and response then you can tell if he really cares for you. Good luck.
2006-11-27 06:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some very legitimate and serious concerns. It is your decision, but remember that people do NOT change. You ultimately have to be OK with marrying him exactly as he is now. If you don't think you want to be with him forever the way his is now then I would suggest rethinking the marriage.
2006-11-27 05:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by gemini6262 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds he doesn't want to be with u and he's running away from telling u that..... I think u should have the courage and make the first step: tell him what u feel and that u need a person beside u, not a shadow moving here and there.....
2006-11-27 05:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by L ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does like this then u really have to rethink this relation... and he fails to understand that means u have to break off...
2006-11-27 05:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by devisharvani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No body can understand u.
think more and yourself decide.
some times we know the correct way but because of other go to by - way.
2006-11-27 06:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.ENG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to spend his free time with you and be by your side whenever possible then the guy doesn't love you, dump him.
2006-11-27 05:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be with someone who will spend time with you . I would break up with him and find someone else.
2006-11-27 05:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you should break it off. apparently he doesnt care for you as you do him, and your wants and needs dont seem to matter as much to him, as you had with his. if he'd care, he'd of brought you with him, and wouldnt have said, if he was BORED he'd come back. so break it off, before your tied to him more so.
2006-11-27 06:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like he mike have somberly be side you out than be side you tell him you might not be that and see what he say and that sure give you your answer
2006-11-27 06:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. And what's the story with your husband?
2006-11-27 05:54:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋