My mom got into my bed last night at about 3 in the morning and i asked her what she was doing and she just told me to move over. then she started to go asleep, but i kicked her out when i got over the shock and told her to go into the guest room. But then she started laying into me and giving out to me for kicking her out. Guys im totally freaked out, im 22 and like, i sleep basically naked. the only reson im still at home is coz im in my final year at college and cant afford accomodation on campus. please tell me what you guys think of this, am i over reacting??
2006-11-26 21:42:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok, just so you know, im a GIRL and i basically am the parent to my parents. stop leaving harsh comments when you don't understand the whole story. if you dont have something constructive to say, then dont say anything.
2006-11-26 22:17:27 · update #1
also, i live in Ireland and the college accomodation is set up totally diff to america. i travel for 3 hours everyday to get to and from college. i don't pay rent to them but all i dont cost them anything, i pay for everything.
2006-11-26 22:21:04 · update #2
she may be having a hard time with you growing up, the best time for me and my kid are when I put him to bed and rad to him and cuddly him, maybe she just wanted a bit of that back, or she could be going threw a hard time with your father if he is there or maybe the poor lass was drunk, at any rate ask her what that was all about and if you feel uncomfortable tell her
2006-11-27 00:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, You may be over reacting. Us moms love our children and are never detached from you. You on the other hand,( you being the children), start equating sex with love and it all becomes distorted. The two are not the same. I would bet your mom was feeling lonely and just wanted to be near you. I'm sorry you pushed her away. If incest is a problem in you family than you have every reason to be concerned, but that behavior probably would have manifest long ago. I don't know your family situation and would only venture to guess that incest is not the case here. Tell your mom you love her and spend more time with her...I'd bet that's all she needs from you. Again she will always love you, even when she is angry with you. Don't be afraid to cuddle with your mother, even when you become one yourself. Oh yeah! if she reaches out to you like this again, get up put some clothes on and make room for mommy!
2006-11-26 22:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could she have been sleep walking, drunk, or on a sleeping medication? I've seen research that suggests really strange behaviour from some of the newer sleep medications. I've even read about people eating things at night like buttered cigarettes. Senator Patrick Kennedy recently went to the senate to "vote" at 3 AM on one of these meds. He was driving his car, but totally dreaming. I'd talk to her about it. Don't worry about her throwing you out, she's most certainly does not want you telling her friends and other family members about this incident. Make sure it doesn't happen again with a lock on your door. If she objects, remember, you have some leverage to protect yourself.
2006-11-26 22:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u r over reacting .. but what it actually means will not just depend on this incident but any such past incidents ... if its the case where u and ur mom live alone then i totally think u r over reacting .. and u r justified with ur staying at home but ya u r getting use lessly freaked ... try to chill and ask urself why she did that ... and then judge by her reaction ... incase she would have been expecting something then ur getting freaked would be justified .. but u urself said that she was getting to sleep that means she didnt ... u should just give her the benefit of the doubt coz she would have just wanted to sleep next to u as she did when u were a kid ... and ur sleeping naked in bed does not affect her as she has seen u like that more than u urself has ... so for her it no biggie ... so try to take it easy ... i know u freaked but leave it at that .. dont take it much further ... talk to her if it gets out of hand ...
2006-11-26 21:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Yash 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Did she touch you in a wrong way? Is she divorce? May be you are over reacting, if she's alone may be she just loves you very much and because she is alone she needs to feel you as her little kid, even when you're 22. Do not prejudge her, talk to her and try to give her a little more of your time, may be this is what she needs. Don't try to cross the river if you haven't reach it yet.
2006-11-26 21:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nightmare you mom seems to be having is Sleep paralysis, the moaning noises is quite common and is not harmfull, even if the sleeper cannot be woken straight away . This type of nightmare can be quite frightening to both the sleeper and others around, but as i said , is harmless. im sure if you google sleep paralysis , there will be some familier stories which you and your mom can relate too.
2016-05-23 08:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mum has never done this before, then yes I think you are TOTALLY Over reacting!
She's your mum, give her a break! She may have just wanted a cuddle from her little boy (Ok I know your 22) but you'll always be her little boy.
Did you ever stop to think that your mother might be going through something at the moment, and need your support?????
Maybe it's emotional stuff, maybe your dads having an affair, maybe her mother's ill, maybe she's going through the menapause. Maybe she's worried that you maybe killing your self on drugs or drink etc.
Maybe she Love's you with all her heart and there is nothing SICK about that.
Do us all a favor and speak to your mum, don't accuse, and if you havn't already...appologise to her.
JUST ASK HER, "Whats up Mum?"
2006-11-26 22:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well you said she told you to move over and turned over to go to sleep so she must not have been thinking bad thoughts. I'd talk to her and find out what the deal was. Maybe she actually had a logical reason.
2006-11-26 22:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she married or does she have a man? Many women go to their sons just for comfort when they don't have a relationship with any other man. Yeah, it's kind of weird, but you should just talk to her and let her know how you feel. My grandmother made me kiss her on the cheek, and I believe that she did so because my grandfather wouldn't.
2006-11-26 21:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by tonja20770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a husband in the house? If so she probably fought with him in some way and she knew he wouldn't bother her in your room. I would ask her what was going on and tell her your uncomfortable with her invading your space. Maybe you all should invest in an air mattress if she plans to continue sneaking to your room.
2006-11-26 22:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Hottestwallflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋