How do I tell my mom and my family that I am pregnant? whats the best way?

Question

I have always grown up in a christian home and although I respect the whole marriage and then have children I have discovered that I am pregnant an not married!+ the fact that I am still quite young and working in a fulltime job. I dont know how to tell anyone in my family especially my mom and dad!-an then theres my big brother and sister who are just gonna have a fit. I am in a 2 years+ relationship with my partner which is going alrite at the moment. I mean even his mom knows about the baby but she is absolutely over the moon about things and cant wait until he or she is born. I know that my mom will probably feel that way once she has calmed down but I just dont know how to break it to her. I feel i cant really say it to her face and Ive thought about using the phone but any way I look at doing it, it has to be done because this is just adding extra stress on my head which I just dont need.-so please I welcome all suggestions.

Answer 1

Put it in a very nice Christmas Card!

Answer 2

If you have a grandma confide in her. If not, do as follows.

Write a note, put it in an envelope, and hand it to your mom on your way out to work. Tell her to read it after you've left. And say to her : "We'll talk about it in the evening when I'm back."

Your mom and dad will at first be distraught and may try to ring you at work. Instruct the telephonist not to transfer any call from them to you. (I hope you're not the telephonist. If you are, skip work for a day and go to the movies, and give a suitable instruction to your replacement.)

The few hours will give your mom and dad time to reflect, and they will cool down, and may even be quite accepting of the situation, by the time you're back. These hours should also give you time to decide (with your boyfriend) what you want to do about the baby. Since his mother is ecstatic I assume you'll keep the child. Discuss the issue of marriage. You must be prepared with a plan of action when you meet your parents in the evening.

DO NOT BRING YOUR BOYFRIEND IN FOR THE FIRST DISCUSSION. HE CAN COME IN A LIITLE LATER, PERHAPS THE NEXT DAY.

Make it clear to your brother and sister that they have no say in the discussion or the decision unless they have something constructive to contribute, and should stay out of it. They will just have to accept what you and your parents decide.

Later, when things have sorted themselves, and they will, you can get the two moms and dads (the would-be grandparents) together, and I'm sure things will turn out happily for all.

Answer 3

Oh what a pickle honey. First of all congratulations. And second of all you shouldn't be worried at all, its quite obvious that you are over the moon about this baby aswell and this should be a happy time for you. Your family love you and support you and the way they have brought you up mirrors that. I wouldnt suggest using the phone or txt etc, go and sit down with them (and your partner
) and be honest about your situation. Don't be frightened, chances are they will be shocked and you may get a few lectures but I think deep down they will be happy it might just take them a while to come round. The sooner you do it the better! Good luck and congraulations again! xxx

Answer 4

congradulations on your newborn, but the reasons your parent will be mad are scary. you probaly wont be able to work full-time, and college will be on a part-time basis since daycares are higher priced these days. A child is a big responsibility, but understand that its also a big problem if you arent ready to take care of it. People think a child makes them look more established, when in truth, it can COMPLETELY ruin your life. Im not saying that children are bad news, but i am saying, i hope you are ready to bring a life into this world that is entirely YOUR responsibility.
of course your parents are going to be upset, you know thats going to happen with any christian family. They are upset, because they know what you are about to go through, and TRUST me after watching out for my baby cousin, its FAR from easy. You'll have to cut back on a LOT of things you enjoy, because your life is now Second Priority. Your childs needs come first. They might be mad cause you have committed a sin that can never be undone. But it's common amongst people who can lose control of their virtues at times. Also, id tell them before they find out by themselves, cause then you would in a way be lying to them and thats only adding to the entire problem. The best thing to do is pray. God heals any pain hurt and frustration, so pray. Answers wont come when you want them to, but they are ALWAYS on time.


Good luck, and hope i could help.

Answer 5

Wow, sounds like me 7 years ago!!!

What I did is, I went round my parents home when I knew just my mum would be there. Then I just blurted it out without hesitation. I said, " Mum I'm pregnant and I'm really happy about it"
and when my dad got home my mum told my dad and the next minute I know ... the whole family knew and everyone was happy that I was happy!
Ok they would have wished that I would have done things differently like, travel the world, get married, buy a property etc etc but we didn't.
But it hasn't stopped us doing those things, we are now married, have bought a house, and ok we havn't travelled the world but we go abroad on holiday every year so we are doing it bit by bit.
And the same will be for you.
Be strong!
They will be happy for you, if not at first, they will be in the end.

Good luck
Big Smiles

x

Answer 6

How old are you?
If your relationship is going allright then marry the guy and tell your boyfriend to ask for permission from your parents, you would like to make them happy because of their christian beliefs.
You pretty much answered your own question "you have to tell them" after all they are going to notice the belly soon anyway.
Better coming from you then someone else slipping up.
Believe me it will be a huge weight lifted off your shoulders and then you can enjoy being pregnant.
Your mum and dad will calm down you'll see there was nothing to stress about. Your parents should be there to communicate with not treat you like a baby unless of course you are a baby.

Good luck and hope all goes well.

Answer 7

i think of you're able to write a letter, that way you may communicate a properly theory out determination to her. do no longer forget approximately to function in what you intend to do with the toddler as quickly as that's right here (daycare in case you're going returned to artwork and so on) in the event that they're christian then an abortion is a few distance worse than having a blessing and that's a blessing you're youthful yet no longer an fool in case you have been working finished time for a three hundred and sixty 5 days solid for you, permit her be responsive to you're responsive to the duty of a youngster and which you're finding forward to being a mom, and then say which you wish you may assume her help as she has been a great mom and additionally you admire her expertise, stay sturdy and constructive do no longer ask for forgiveness or act such as you remorseful approximately it, in 9 months this might all be over and additionally you might have the ideal factor your life take place to you and additionally you BF.

Answer 8

there is no easy way to break the news to her, so all that Left is to do it the right way. Sit her down and calmly explain it to her. She may surprise and take it well or she may freak out. But either she will be there for you when the time comes and right now you have to get it out in the open. Keeping it a secret for too long will only cause you more heart-ache. Tell her and get it over with, be tactful, calm, understanding, tolerant, and open minded about what she has to say. good luck!

Answer 9

Well, who is the most sympathetic person in your family? Your mother? Tell her first, and give her some time to absorb this information. Then tell her about your worries with regard to your father, brother and sister - this was an unplanned pregnancy, after all, and you got caught out. I think it's better to do this face to face, and alone with her. The second time you could bring your partner's mother, as she so enthusiastic about becoming a granny. That kind of thing tends to be catching.

If your parents are supportive, and your partner's parents are supportive, then you needn't worry about your brother and sister.

Congratulations, by the way.

Answer 10

I feel for you, I had this dilemma too. I think that the fact you're not married is irrelevant to the situation because your mum will surely be pleased/ I was as worried fcuk telling my mum because I was only 21 and she did the whole 'I'm disappointed in you talk' but once I had explained to her exactly what my plans were and how I going to take responsibility for the situation she changed her tune.

As for your brother and sister - who cares! They might be mad but I GUARANTEE that once your bubba is born they will come round. No one can resist a baby.

You should tell your mum face to face though. she'll be even more upset if you don't.

Good luck darlin

Answer 11

Depends on how old you are to whether your family will go banana's. At the end of the day it is a difficult thing to do, but the sooner you do it the sooner it'll be over and done with then you can deal with everything else after.
You may find its not gonna be as bad as it seems but do it face to face - your family will respect that more!