this man is so caring, always telling me he loves me so much and he will not hurt me because he has be waiting for someone who will love him and cherish him because he has gone through hell
the problem is i can't fall in love him but i like him so much. we started dating less than 2 months but to be honest he has done alot for me.
he always ask me when will i open my mouth to tell him i love him too, somrtime i feel so bad when i can't respond to him just a smile?
how can i fall in love?
2006-11-26 21:29:26 · 11 answers · asked by sweet girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That isn't something you can force yourself to do. You either are or you aren't. Continue dating him. Be honest with him about your feelings. It is what it is and you can't force it. Good luck.
2006-11-26 21:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not the first time I've heard this...second in two weeks...fourth in two months! All the other cases involved females I know from work or acquittance's. They tell me how they have this really sweet friend who worships the ground they walk on and will do anything for them and how they'd make the perfect boyfriend or even husband...and then they leave with the guy who treats them like trash, has no job, no education, and is driving THEIR CAR (all except the last female I know. She hooked up with a rich guy this time but the two before were pathetic). So I've come to the conclusion that at least some girls - and I'm putting you in this category- SAY they want the nice guy but what they really want, what REALLY gets their attention, is a guy being forceful with them. That's something I don't think you can change. Sad but true. You'll break this poor guys heart. Don't drag it out.
2006-11-27 05:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike lust, love is something that grows gradually over time. 2months is not long enough for you to be in a panic of falling in love with him.If you start using his words and what ever you say it is that he has done alot for you then you would have the wrong reasons to fall in love with him.
Give it a try and put him to the edge so that you can test his love for you.Does he love that gal who he has been waiting to love him(which gal you are not coz you really dont love him as yet) and cherish him? or the gal that is really you (character wise). If people who have been hurt before do not heal well (given it time to heal) they usually hallusinate. If this man really loves you despite all that you put him through you will know he loves you and that will make you love him and i insist with time.
Analyse this why do you think you "cant fall in love with him". Is it because he hasn't got the looks? not the same social,cultural background?Gat no money?Not your type of man (tall muscular....) Is there anything physical that you don't like about him? Do you know what it feels like to be in love?(Maybe you are in love and you dont know) If all these aint in the way i think you need to give it time . Unlike men women take long to fall in love because women put too much reasoning to it and haye!!we can't help being emotional.
All in all give it time at least you are one step towards it you like him so much and watch it love built on bonds with time leaves a trail of memories that even when you want to break up it will be impossible.So relax the feeling will come when he is the one thing that you cant leave without and when he is away you will only be counting the seconds to see him again.
Falling in love has no formular or steps because love is such a beautiful feeling that you can't explain. Time is everything and its all you need you don't have to work hard at it just let your heart melt away slowly and it will all be his.
2006-11-27 05:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Stella 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because of his previous hurts, he is insecure and he needs to hear the words. Unfortunately he is putting all his emotional needs on to you and that is not correct. You are right to follow your instincts here - you do not love him (yet) and you have no desire to tell him you do, despite the fact that he has done a lot for you.
Stick to your guns - do not succumb to the pressure of his insecurities. Those are his problems - do not make them yours. In time, you may love him, but he needs to cut you some slack for now.
2006-11-27 05:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make yourself fall in love with him. It might come with time. Otherwise i suggest you let him go gently because you need to be happy too. I know it'd be hard but (and this isn't met to be harsh at you) but he sounds like he deserves someone who will love him back like he loves them instead of just the like you feel for him..even if it is loads. At the moment it sounds like you feel guilty for not loving him back as much as he does you which is unfair on you,so find someone you can fall in love with. Why can't love be simple for all of us eh?!
2006-11-27 05:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by amelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is tall, medium built and Devisharani... He knows a lot.
He is an understanding person but reports matter personal and private all the same to respondent superiors. He good to go around with but marriage is still the kitchen work of god so go around for a few weeks.
2006-11-27 05:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, i have to advices to give to you.
first is that, if you don't really love this guy, if you haven't really fallen in love with him, if you have not felt the sparks when you are with him, then why would you say you love him? you can't teach ones self to love people. love is not learned. never learned. if you don't really love this guy, then tell him in a nice way. maybe you are just too scared to tell him the truth because you are scared to loose a friend.
second, well, maybe you ARE in love with him but could not admit to yourself. because sometimes you have to clear it to yourself. you have to love yourself first before you love others,, think first. and think hard. ask yourself if you really love him... because maybe, just maybe, you do..
anyway, i don't really know which advice suits your problem most because only you can tell...
good luck...=)
2006-11-27 05:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by -'UpEnDi'- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just cant fall in love... it happens automatically.... if he this caring then why are u not telling him whats in ur mind.. dont flirt with his feelings....and dont force urself into falling in love.... remember even if u force and tell urself that yes i love him.. it will b untrue and u will repent later... so b honest to him and dont think of saying yes to him bcoz he did so much for u... or the base of ur relationship will not stand for long
2006-11-27 05:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by devisharvani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you feel about him and give yourself chance to love him if you don't feel that you love him, tell him immediately.
2006-11-27 05:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmien K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't force it unfortunately....sometimes over time love can develop but that isn't always so... good luck...but you owe it to him to be totally honest...
2006-11-27 05:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋