i really dont know what to do about it, some people have said ignore it and not make a big deal out of it, he will stop. but i really think i should do something about it. anybody had this problem and know how to resolve it?
2006-11-26 21:12:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes he is in nursery, and i dont swear around him!
2006-11-26 21:17:31 · update #1
make a 'swear box' for him, but instead of getting him to put money into it, take one of his toys and put it in the box for 24 hrs, and explain to him each time that he has said a 'bad word' and that this is what will happen every time he says a bad word. he'll soon learn that he's missing out on things he wants, and will cut out the swearing. you also need to explain to him that it's not acceptable to use bad words as it upsets other people to hear them..... i had a very brief problem with my 4 year old saying 'sh*t' , (thanks to his uncle - kids only need to hear it said once, don't they !?!) but he soon stopped saying it once i started the 'swear box'. he gets upset now if he hears anyone using a bad word.... which is brilliant, but can be a bit embarrassing when he tells complete strangers in the street not to use bad words !!!
2006-11-26 21:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he needs to know that the words he uses are not acceptable and you will not under any circumstances stand for it. Make him take time out each time he uses the words, totally ignore him, for 3 minutes. Put him on a stair, or in a corner where he has no interation with toys, or you, no eye contact no talk however small. Once he has sat for 3 minutes explain that it is not nice to use those words, ask him to apologise to you because he upsets you when he uses those words. Once he has said sorry and only then can he come off. Then forget the incident completely and get on. it may take time as he may get off the stair but you hae to show him you are consistent and mean what you say.
If it comes to it convescate his favourite toy when he says it and hide it for a day.
he will pick up things from nursery but you need to explain why they are not nice words to use. good luck..
2006-11-27 01:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since he is at the peak of learning things that will stay with him, ignoring it is the WORST thing u can do! when he swears, tap his mouth and tell him its not OK to swear! my daughter swears cuz we do! not so much me and my husband! we try not too as much as possible, we use alternative words! when we do swear, she says "watch ur mouth".. when he swears tellhim its bad, and he should say those things! find out where he is learning these words from! and put an end to it! cuz if u dot, when he goes to school, he's goin to say them and then the other kdis will and then u have a big problem, the hot sauce/pepper, seems to work for my 3 yr old... dont put alot! use a needle point amount
2006-11-27 00:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by !*FeDuP*! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every mum has this problem at some time of their childs development. The best thing is to ignore it really, the more of a fuss you make of it the more they will do it. Just have a word with the child and tell them that its not a nice word to say and it upsets you to hear them say it. I have 4 children and each one of them have tried this out your certainly not the only one. I told mine that it was a rude word to say and that i didnt like them saying it and if i caught them again then they would be in big trouble. It work apart from the oldest he got his mouth washed out with soap from my father ( he was older than 3 though) it worked for him he didnt swear again hes 20 now.This is not now recommended as its a form of child abuse lol ( i dont mean that its funny but how many parents on here can say they had there mouth washed out with soap or have been threatened by this method. The child will stop im sure of that xxx
2006-11-26 21:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by spensmum 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
lol, the joys of a swearing three yr old. well mine have both said things in the past, where are they getting it from? if its from you or whoever he has been around they need to stop swearing themselves. its hard if you naturally use swear words but it only encourages the kids to swear too. tell them its a bad word and its not good to say it, i think the answer is to start talking kid, i used to swear a lot, i tend to talk like a three yr old now and it actually works! once they have forgotton the bad words they will start to talk as you want them to. try not to get angry though if he does swear, he is only a baby still and he doesnt know any better. good luck and seriously talk like back to when you were three, childish voices and stuff. i hope this works for you, it did for me :D
2006-11-26 21:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by mooka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband shouted f u c k e r out of the car window and our 3 year old was saying it for days.
We told her it wasnt a nice word, daddy said it accidentally, and we made a point of showing her that daddy was 'punished' by not being allowed to share my bar of chocolate for being naughty.
Dont over-react to it, they all do it at some point, and he will stop doing it if you dont make a big deal of it. Just explain that its not a nice word, you do not allow him to say that word and he will be in trouble if you hear him saying it. Threaten to take a way a toy, or something like that and he should soon stop.
Thats what we did with ours, she grew out of i
Good luck!
2006-11-26 21:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where did he pick it up from?
He must've heard this to be copying it, and he will also repeat it if he gets a reaction from it.
Just tell him calmly that it's not nice to swear and that you don't want to listen to him while he does and ignore him for a minute or two afterward.
The best thing you can do is stop him hearing it
2006-11-26 21:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my son was 3 he swore once at my parents( we never swore around him) I told him it was"nt a nice thing to do.
He went very shy and would"nt talk to us for a hour or so.
He is 35 now and I have ony heard him swear twice in all these years.
My grandchildren dont" swear either.
2006-11-26 21:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by dancingcar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring is the best thing...if you make a big deal then they will persist as it gets a reaction. Where did they pick it up from??? Find out and have a word with the culprit.
2006-11-26 21:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you MUST do is find out where he got the word from and tell the person to stop (that is not easy) as its probably just a bad habit. and when the person stops saying it then so will your son and just ignore him. don't reward him with any sort of attention when he says it. but reward him when he is a good boy!!!
2006-11-27 01:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by dingu_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋