My girlfriend left me last weekend to go back to her ex. They had dated for 5 and a half years, he had left her for another girl. This girl left him, and he started chasing back after her while her and I were dating. She decided to go back. We were only together for around 6 weeks, but that was long enough for me to get real close to her. It wasn't a bad relationship ffor me so I cant think back on the negative side to help me get over it. I'm pretty sure it cant work out between them and am just as sure that she'll come back to me when things do fall apart. Do I wait for her to come back? If she does come back, should I take her back or am I setting myself up to take another hit? I'm really confused right now, and still heartbroken. Sent her a text just now, first contact in a week. Just to say hi and hear how she is, don't know if I made a mistake. Everyone is against her decision to go back to him and are nailing her over what she lost in me!! Where to from here??
2006-11-26 20:46:07 · 16 answers · asked by Beefmaster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They say 2nd place is the 1st loser, so that is what you are making yourself out to be. Basically you are telling her she can do whatever she wants and then come back to you when it is convenient. Chances are that this is a continuous pattern that will only result in you getting hurt repeatedly. Unless that is what you want I would stay as far away from her as possible. If she comes back, tell her you have moved on, even if you havent. Good Luck!
2006-11-26 20:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldnt advise you to text her . Leave her be . As youve pointed out there was a history before you and her . It might not work out between the two but what if it does? Wouldnt you rather know now that she still had feelings for him and not find this out six months later ? At least shes been honest. Now its time for you to be honest about how you really feel. Are you willing to wait and see if it works out or you going to get on with your life and find someone else ? Now its all up to you . Thats the hard part isnt it?
2006-11-27 05:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very perplexing question and I guess, that only your own heart and soul (that inner voice of yours) can correctly answer to you, regarding the decision that you should take. Of course, you could wisely consult dependable family members and friends, but the "final decision," should be your OWN, even after you have carefully listened to AND weighed out all the counsel, from your people. Remember, that once you make the decision, you must execute your decision with inflexible perseverance.
2006-11-27 05:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember how she has behaved thus far and know what she is capable of doing. She seems somewhat emotionally unstable. So does that ex of hers. Kind of like a relationship of convenience for the two of them. If she comes back to you realize that it may be a whim. Take it slow and be careful that you're not setting yourself up again. Keep your eyes open. Use your head and guard your heart.
2006-11-27 05:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's highly unlikely that she will come back. She was with the other guy for 5 and a half years. Her brain is overwhelmed by memories of him. Sorry, but in this case, I think you really have to move on. It will become bearable.
2006-11-27 04:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the rebound guy.. I would move on.. If she left you at the first chance she had to go back to him, then if he does dump her again, it would be your best bet to let her get over it for good this time. Never know, you may end up together in the end.
2006-11-27 04:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Karen W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks is like about 12 days spent together if your in college and have a job.
Dude that's nothing. Get over her and chase after better tail.
2006-11-27 04:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by GamerGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is such a loser and if you took her back you would be one too. Find yourself a girl who respects you and who expects to be treated that way herself. Your ex. g/f has as good as told her b/f he can treat her like s... and do whatever he likes.
2006-11-27 05:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by Ted T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y would u want to be w/ someone that doesnt want to be w/ u?
find something to distract u from her. the gurl u should b waiting for is a grl who would never give u up.
2006-11-27 04:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by jezabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Anirtak!
If she played you that way and you let her back in, you will DESERVE it the next time.
Don't call her anymore.
She doesn't respect you and she won't.
2006-11-27 04:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋