An acquaintance that I haven't talked to in several months sent me a text message that said "I am married". No "hello", no "how are you" or anything. Was she bragging or am I reading too much into things?
I am single by the way.
I know this is a stupid question but I need to know.
2006-11-26 20:35:22 · 31 answers · asked by lovendovie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes i believe that person is bragging and looking for attention and congratulations. Wish them well and move on.
2006-11-26 20:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if she was trying to be rude or flaunt it, don't ackowledge it because then she would have achieved what she set out to do but then again she might not have meant it that way, women and people generally can be funny sometimes when it comes to the way messages are sent and how they're perceived when received. Word of advice when dealing with twisted messages like this, see the positive side of it, would make you feel better. Send her a congratulatury message, that you're really happy for her, she have a happy married life. Wish her all the best and move on. Good Luck.
2006-11-27 04:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that's rude. First of all, you haven't talked for several months and she doesn't bother asking how things are going for you. Not greeting is rude too and stubby messages like that come across as bragging or attention seeking. It's like she's either bragging or fishing for congratulations or presents while she doesn't seem to have any interest in knowing how you are doing and what's going on in your life. Plus, depending on how well you two know each other, it may be rude to only tell you about it afterwards.
In any case, yes, this is rude.
2006-11-27 05:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the acquaintance, and why you haven't spoken. She might have been just passing along happy news to someone she hasn't spoken to in a while.
However I have to point out that texting someone you haven't spoken to in ages "I am married" is kind of weird. If she wanted to simply let you know the good news she would have called you for the prerequisite congratulatory squealing. For that matter, why would she not invite you to the wedding, but than tell you so abruptly that she was married?
All right, just send her back a text that says, "Congratulations, I hope you two are very happy in your new life together." Than move on with your life. She sounds like one of those annoying jealous people who want to rub your nose in their happiness, but hate when you're happy.
2006-11-27 10:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by eXie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she is an acquaintence, not a friend. Obviously you don't intereract that much. She probably just wanted to fill you in along with a few others. Wish her the best and go on with your life. Either text back or call back. No need for a gift - you weren' t invited to the wedding. But send a card if you feel it appropriate.
2006-11-27 08:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would feel werid about that as well.
If its an Acquaintance you wouldnt expect an invite or anything like that to her wedding so why not tell you before the event.
To me she couldnt face saying anything in case you asked for an invite which she really didnt want to give out..
So she already made her bed.. Just walk away.. .
If im not that close of a friend to tell before the wedding or to invite then im not part of your life.. Really.. thats just it..
She isnt part of your life.. nor you part of hers.
So move on .. dont answer back...
Let her do the worring .. Just delete it.
If you see here again on the way to work or at an event.
And she brings up the message.
Just say.. Oh.. yah.. got it thanks for letting me know.
leave it at that.
2006-11-27 05:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is just a message and must be sent to several others so the person told you the most important part. Do not think it is rude. By the way, did you send a message of congrat/good luck?
2006-11-27 09:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by riccardo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is rude.. Ok, even if she got married, and she cared enough to share with you, how come she didnt invite you to the wedding?
It sounds like she was juut bragging, saying that because she is married now and u are still single she is better then u..
anyways, I would have been mad, if someone did that to me...
good luck, and I hope that helps!
2006-11-27 04:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by nastymix1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky she didn't send you "invites" for giving her gifts and money.
Ha ha, just kidding.
I think a handwritten letter would have been more appropriate, or a phone call... texting stuff like that is lame.
It's also possible that she sent the message to the wrong number, and that it was a great big joke or something. You should call her and say "well?"
2006-11-27 04:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. I'll admit it seems wierd, and the wording is strange, causing you to wonder why she wouldn't say hey or anything first. Ask mutual aquaintances if they got anything similar, etc. And why do we need to know if you're single? Maybe she's just letting you know. Either way, there are better ways to spread the news. Just forget about it, if you need to reply, say "congratulations I wish you well."
2006-11-27 11:05:42 · answer #10 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an ice breaker would have been nice
she couldn't even face you to tell you
yes, a little rude, but maybe she was just making a general announcement via text message because her new hubby is too cheap to buy real announcements
you're probable reading too much into it
2006-11-27 04:48:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋