Why keep asking me about my ex?

Question

i really fancy this guy. im only seeing him casually. he keeps on asking me about my previous 6 year relationship. i was engaged too. i ended this relationship with my ex 8 months ago. he knows about this too so why keep on asking me about him?

Answer 1

maybe he is jealous or maybe he is worried that he cannot be as good as he was.

Answer 2

There could be many reasons for him asking you. He might have been very hurt and he wants to make sure that your previous relationship is over before he attempts to committs. Or he could be just touching base and wanting to seem like he is interested in you and your life. Or he could feel threatened by your previous relationship in some way. Or He might not know what else to talk about and you might seem interested (to him) to talk about this previous relationship.There might be a 100 different reasons so why dont you ask him. Just say something like " You seem quite interested in my previous relationship - any particular reason? or in those words. Or you might like to say " that relationship is well and truly out of the way and I dont want to talk about it anymore ok? Setting some boundaries on the topic might help him. He may be jealous or feel uncertain (men are a bit strange). Good luck

Answer 3

Maybe he doesn't want to avoid making the same mistakes your ex did in your last relationship. He might be hoping the casual relationship your now enjoying might develop into something more serious in the future if you don't have the same problems with him that you had with the other guy.

Answer 4

It's either one of many reasons.............

He's trying to find out what your ex did wrong for you to end it so he doesn't make the same mistakes.

He's making sure there's no feelings left for your ex so he doesn't get hurt.

It may only be casual at the moment but he's could be looking into the future and wants to know what he's letting himself in for.

He may only want a casual relationship and nothing serious and is trying in his own little way to make you know this.

Answer 5

Sounds like the guy is a little insecure. Tell him that you cannot see him anymore if he can't leave the past in the past. Tell him he has nothing to do with it and to leave it alone. Maybe he keeps asking so he doesn't make the same mistakes your ex did, but still. Like you said. He knows. He should leave it alone and move on. Just be up front with him and tell him that.

Answer 6

He's feeling a liitle insecure cos he's worried he's a rebound thing.He's asking all these questions to see how you react when your ex is mentioned and if you still hold a torch a torch for him.Hopefully,his insecurities will fade as time goes on and he sees how much you fancy him and not your ex.Tell him 'an ex is an ex for a reason'. Good Luck. :)

Answer 7

everyone was hurt before so :
1 he don't want your huret to distroy a relationship and wants to be sure of it by asking many questions .
2 he don't want you to hurt him by dropping him later on for that same guy or another one even .
So let him know that :
1 you forgot him completely .
2 you were not the reason of the break up thing and that you are easy going simple girl .

Answer 8

I think that he may insecure. He may have had a history of a past relationship with the same situation and she went back to her ex. It sounds like he's gunshy

Answer 9

Men are naturally insecure about how they weigh up against previous partners. This seems ridiculous to women but is natural to all men (that's why virgins used to be so popular!!)
Just be honest with him and tell him that he's bigger / better / stronger / lasts longer etc and flatter his ego a bit.

Answer 10

Could be insecurity - could also be a bit of obsessive jealousy so just keep an eye on it. If he shows anger or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, take it as a warning sign.

Answer 11

mayb he feels like he doesnt compare to ur ex so he may feel a bit insecure.