i am a really nice guy, and i am pretty attractive, i have a lot ot friends that are girls, and none of them seem to like me... am i doing something wrong. for instance i took this ashley out on a date, and we had a lot of fun, i bought her dinner at applebees, and then we went to the movies... at the movies she was just sitting there watching the movie and everytime i got close she would back away... then she would just grab my hand... as i drove her home i asked her if she had a good time, and she said she had a great time... then when i dropped her off she just jumped out of the truck, and i walked her up to her door, and she just shut it in my face, what am i suppost to do... i like her a lot, and i am just confused... please help
2006-11-26 20:16:35 · 11 answers · asked by Stefan D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't come on so strong. Not all girls want a kiss on the first date. Ask her out again and if she agrees just take it from there. You have so much time, don't rush. Good luck.
2006-11-26 20:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't rush the first kiss! Next time you go out, do something different than a movie and dinner. You can't really have a conversation during a movie. And it's rude to talk with your mouth full of food. I suggest going to some kind of nature trail. You can talk and talk. Find out what she likes besides Applebee's and movies. Or try dancing, because you have to touch your partner. Do it even if you have to go to a lesson. There's nothing sweeter than being told by the dance instructer to hold your partner closer, and place your hand firmly on her back. That would be fun, and help ease some nervousness. She would start to feel more comfortable about you touching her. Which is all leading up to the kiss!
2006-11-26 20:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to be friends and doesnt want a romantic relationship with you. I dont understand why girls will let a guy take them out and then play the "dont come near me" game, but it happens all the time.
Also, the fact that you have a lot of girls that are friends tells me that women tend to look at you as a boy "friend" rather than a "boyfriend. By all means reamain friends with the girls, but when there is a woman you are interested in, try to treat that girl differently. Like dont let her see you as a brother or just a friend. Try to let her see the flirty and kind of mysterious guy instead of the easy going guy friend. I hope you know what I mean. I've known a lot of guys that have this problem and its hard for them to find girlfriends even if they are very nice and good looking. Girls just view them as friend.
2006-11-26 20:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just take your time. alot of girls don't like to get close on a first date. so by you trying to get close and things, she was feeling rather uncomfortable, you should have caught on to that the first time she backed away and left it at that. when you walked her to hr door, she was probably afraid you would try to kiss her, and she already felt akward from the movies...just cause you pay for a date doesn't mean you get something in the end, if you want to see her again, you'll have to apologize if you came on too strong at all, and tell her you respect that she doesn't want to move fast, and then ask if she'd like to go out again. don't try making a move on her until after a few dates and she starts looking at you with sparkles in her eyes
2006-11-26 20:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting close on the first date? most girls arent so comfortable with that. my first couple of weeks with my boyfriend, all he wanted out of me was the pleasure that i could bring to him. that actually really mirrors our first date. because in fact, a lot of times, its easily portrayed that you guys kiss goodnight, which leads to making out, which leads to an invitation upstairs. we all know what happens from there. right? applebees, thats great. movies, even better. but i advise you to lay back a bit on the first date. on the second however, if she chooses to go out again, you can make the plunge.
2006-11-26 20:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Heaven M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your obviously pretty up yourself.
Take a chill pill.
Maybe your not as cool as you think you are.
If you have a lot of girl's as friends but can't get a girlfriend...Your either lieing to yourself or maybe your gay??
I think you should ask your good mates what is wrong with you, but make sure they've had a few beer's first so they tell you the truth!
Good Luck!
2006-11-26 20:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by Moz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well actually she likes you too but is trying to show you that you need to be more patient and that is not easy a all to get her especially not on the first date(you know, all this rules about dating:).Girls want to be conquered, just try to impress her, you'll see, she will be yours!Good luck!
2006-11-26 20:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe........she was just nervous or sumtin....just try o talk toher or ask her out on another date........
2006-11-26 20:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mii-cuh-ella :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and eventually ask her out
2006-11-26 20:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by cornelius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for it
2006-11-26 20:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by TiGa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋