im no good at anythink and im dumb and its making me depressed?

Question

im 17 nearly 18 and i am so dumb i do everythink wrong even if i try to do it right .i feel so dumb compared to my friends and my my bf as they all got good gcses grades and i got crap grades.in gcses i go 2 Ds and 4ES and my friends and my bf got like 4 As and 3 Bs.i have no idears what im good at cause everytime i try somethink i keep getting it wrong even if i keep trying.

i did childcare at college and i did ok at it but i completed the cource and now am trying to look for a job but noone will take me on cause i havent got anoth experiance and they wont give me a change to get any.i might as well be dead cause that what it feels like to me

Answer 1

Good lord, you are not yet 18 and ready to quit? Come now, you can't call that courage. A little backbone, my dear!

Now, what is it you think you might really like to do for a career, not just a "job" in the sense of paycheck? If you do not know, then your first "job" is to answer that question. I have some suggestions as to how, but they would take up too much here.

Talk to your school's guidance counselor, and point out that you did not prove to be all that great at academic matters, but that you need to find what you can do. Chances are there are a great many things, some of them very satisfying, possibly some of them even quite lucrative. For example, if you have any hobby or art or craft skill, you can turn that into a job if you study the market a bit.

There's a technique to getting the best job possible that starts with studying your long-term goals. If your school counselor does not help sufficiently, get yourself a copy of the current "What Color is Your Parachute?" and walk through the self-analysis it outlines, recognizing that doing anything right takes time.

You may need to consider the short term "just-for-the-paycheck" grade job just to get through the holiday season and buy yourself some time. The retail places must be hard up enough by now that you can find something tolerable for such a short term. Buy yourself time to do it right with temporary work whenever you need to.

Answer 2

The first thing to grasp is that you are _not_ 'dumb' (as you put it!). For a start, you've managed to pass your college course which must have required a certain amount of effort and ability. Although you did not achieve as many GCSEs as some of your old schoolfriends, you are still young and therefore have plenty of time in which to make your mark. One thing I have noticed over the years is that many people who did badly at school often do extremely well in later years when their motivation levels increase - e.g., when they want to get promoted at work, or feel like a change of career.
Now, as far as trying to get a job is concerned - why not get some experience by approaching various childcare etsblishments, e.g., nursery schools, hospitals, company creches, etc., and _volunteering_ to assist. I know you might object to this suggestion because you won't be getting paid (but you might still be able to claim benefit), but to gain some experience via thsi route would give you something to put on your CV. Furthermore, it would show prospective employers that you were serious about a career in childcare since you were willing to work for nothing in order to gain experience. It would impress them, believe me. You might even get taken on permanently - and you will certainly make some useful contacts.
What ever you do, try not to think such negative thoughts; you will only depress yourself even more and that will not be good either for your morale or for you motivation. So have a good think about volunteer work - set out a plan of action (who you are going to approach, check on benefits, see if you can get at least travel expenses from the voluntary job, etc..) and be determined to show those who think you are 'dumb' (including yourself!), that, in fact, you are a resolute and resourceful person. And 'Good Luck!' for your future.

Answer 3

If you've successfully completed a course and can't find work in that field try looking for voluntary work first so you can get some experience. The people who ran the course, and the Job Center should both be able to point you in the right direction.

I have to say though, you could really use some lessons in written English. If you can't get lessons then honestly the best way to learn is to try word games online, and read!! A lot!!

Answer 4

finding a job is hard eh, i just finished my course too, and am looking for work. its **** that they are looking for expereince, but you need that job in order to get experience...what do we do. hang around and wait for nice people to give us a chance? i've studied for 4 years,a dn i did relatively well, and yet i feel i'm not good enough for the real world, in fact i dont even want to work at all. Never say that you're dumb! We shouldn't compare ourselves to other people, there can be no comparison between individual beings. And yet we all still compare. Everyone has their talents and their flaws, i guess its just up to us to find them, and use them wisely. Intellengence is just a gimick, its a tool, we all have our different to tools to make it in life. Some have IQ, some money, some LOVE, etc... i always beleived if someone was lacking in one area, it meant they're overflowing in another. Besides, people often dont do well in a situation that has no interest for them. If your interest isnt school then obviously you wont put your full effort. maybe move your focus onto something that you really enjoy and love, and run with it... dont know if that really helps...all you really need is love i reckon... :)

Answer 5

Look, don't you be saying things like you might as well be dead.how do you think your mom would feel,life is hard baby you just got to keep on going cause believe me things will get better,I know now it proably don't feel that way but you just wait you got to givei it a chance you are only 17 nearly 18 you don't have the right to want to give up and don't be worried about what your friends do just worry about what goes on with you,if you can't find a job in what you went to school for then try something else but make sure it is something you like.So cheer up sweetie I promise you it will get better and just don't worry about what you don't do right,be happy with the things that you do right

Answer 6

you're so young still so dont fret! take some time out to seek what would really make you happy, im sure if you searched deep down you will find something you would love to do and will succeed at! you can retake your gcse's at college if you wanted to. You have a boyfriend which means its not all doom and gloom right? dont compare yourself with others, you are special and unique, the world would be boring if we were all the same. get yourself some st johns wort from your local pharmacy, this will help lift your spirit and give you back some fight. No one gets a job first time, keep positive and keep looking, it wasnt worth having if they didnt want you! i believe our paths are set out for us and you have just strayed from yours. Life will be great! look forward to your future because you still have plenty of it left xx keep well. good luck xx

Answer 7

It will come, look on the positive side, look for job openings and just nag them and show them how determined you are, ask them if you can cut up fruit or mow the lawns just to get your foot in and get some experience.

There is a reason you arent getting the jobs youve tried out for as it wasnt meant to be and something better will be around the corner!

One of my friends from school got one of the worst grades in his final exams but he still got a job at a big company, just with his personality, and has now worked himself up the ladder and it running a section

And dont forget to smile :)

Answer 8

Do you know what the art is to being successful? Its not looks, look at Danny Devito the actor, its not brains, its not charm, its not savvy - ITS ATTITUDE. The most successful people in the world dont let others make them feel inferior. THey don't compare themselves with others, nope they just get on with doing what makes them feel happy.

There is no such thing as a dumb person - we all have gifts. We all are good at things and we all can do great things but the key is attitude. You sound like you are very unhappy and down on yourself. there is a good saying "Don't knock yourself because others will do it for you". You need to stop comparing yourself to others and do what makes you happy.

The fact that you are trying is good. Keep trying the biggest failure is not some one who failed but someone who did not try. And you have child care quals and I am sure that you will get a jobs its just attitude. You need to feel better about you.

And you know something I bet you are good at lots of things that make you happy.

there are some good things to do when you feel sad or down and disappointed. Write down a list of things that make you happy doing them

Reading, writing, singing, dancing, cooking, talking with friends, walking in the rain/sun, swimming, exercise, and when you are feeling upset distract yourself with one of these activities. I am sure you will find your feet, its just a matter of finding something you love to do and follow your heart. God bless

Answer 9

i have a 17 y/o nice who thinks he same way as you but i showed her that once and a while if you slow down and look at what the problem that you are trying to figure out instead of trying to be the first one done most of the time it answer will pop right out at you what i am trying to say is remember the story about the tortoise and the hare the tortoise kept saying "slow and steady wins the race" the is the clue just keep telling this to your self when ever you run in to something you cant figure out also dont be afraid to ask questions no matter what

Answer 10

Exams aren't everything, and you could do re-sits if you want to. Everyone feels like you do sometines and the most important thing is to realise that it's just a feeling - not the truth.
Perhaps you could do some voluntary child-care to gain experience. I'm sure plenty of places would be more than happy to trade a reference for some free help. That shows people that you're willing to work for what you want.