i have been with my boyfriend 4 years but i have dreams about another man who i have had a fling with a couple of times. i feel like i need to choose but cant decide i feel like i love both of them. i want them both in my life but i know its wrong. i feel so bad.
2006-11-26 20:06:48 · 18 answers · asked by danielleveale 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can lust after two people at the same time.
but love is just for that special person
2006-11-26 20:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by lb14041977@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can love more then one person at a time. ie I love my mum, my dad, my brother...etc I think the being "in love" with someone there is only one. Maybe the person you are having the fling with it is more of a "lust" feeling. Perhaps with ur boyfriend things have gone stale and the fling excites you?'
Try and work out if you just love one of them and if you are in love with one then go for him. Try and picture life without each of them and if you are more upset about one..maybe he is the one you want to be with!!!??
Good Luck!
2006-11-27 04:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by dags042 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leading one on can hurt them more than letting one go. The longer you wait the worse it gets. You do need to choose one and let one go. You can't have both unless you stay with your b/f whom you've been with 4 years and stay FRIENDS with the other and ONLY friends. Or lose the b/f and be with the other. Easier said than done, but the choice must be made. Just get it over with. You will feel better once you have done it. Maybe not at first but you will and it's better than sitting in limbo like you are now. Good luck!
2006-11-27 04:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by mysticeyes792006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my husband to death but i have dreams about my ex bfs all the time and that is just because when you have feelings for someone you can never forget them it is hard to let go of the connections you've had with people. But I love my husband and I love no one else and I believe that you can only love one person everyone else shoudl only be feelings. Love means being devoted to one person sharing your life with only them. they should be the only one who matters. I would never trade my husband for any one else no matter if they were just as good of a person and had more money because I "love" him. If you dont love someone you want to be with other people and thats when you know its not true and time to move on.
2006-11-27 04:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by "you know it's wrong?" is it wrong? yes you can love 2 people at the same time, it just means that you are not giving one of them all of your love. i don't feel that it is wrong to love more than one person, sadly at some stage someone will get hurt but that is only because of the society that we live in. happiness and physical pleasure do go hand in hand, you have to take your happiness and your pleasure while you can, it may not be there tomorrow. good luck.
2006-11-27 08:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by john w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,you cannot love two people at the same time,but you being a cheat,who knows.Cheaters have no morals or principals,and certainly do not feel love,except only for themselves. Let your b/f go,he deserves better.
2006-11-27 04:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not possible to love two people at the same time. You're probably in lust with them both, but you can only truly love one person.
2006-11-27 04:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU AND THE REST OF THE HONEST WORLD HAVE FELT LIKE THIS AT SOME POINT OR OTHER,I KNOW I HAVE ON MORE THAN ONE OCCASION,BUT IF YOU HAVE HAD FLINGS WITH THE OTHER,DONT YOU THINK THAT WOULD OF BEEN WHEN YOU FELT IT RIGHT TO LEAVE YOUR PRESENT BOYFRIEND,MUST BE STRONGER FEELINGS FOR HIM,GOOD LUCK WITH YOU DECISION.
2006-11-27 04:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly possible to love more than one person at the sametime.It's society that tells us we can't and sometimes society is wrong.
I wish you the best of luck with your dilema, maybe you could see them both
2006-11-27 05:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by delta9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't love two people at the same time. I think u shouldn't do this, it's so unfair to both of them
2006-11-27 06:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ever wrote a rule saying you can't love two people. Its only human society that says its wrong.
2006-11-28 10:13:00 · answer #11 · answered by Rodger L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋