Advice anyone about my rut?

Question

Me and my boyfriend are stuck in a rut. I desperately love him, but recently we have been arguing so much. We're both going for/starting new jobs, buying a flat together and I have some medical issues going on as well. We have a holiday coming up which is now at the wrong time and I am so tired because I'm not sleeping.

It's got to the point we haven't made love in over a week and I can't see it happening anytime soon. I can't 'prepare' a romantic night in as we're living with his parents, so what can I do? I'm so hurt at the way we've been acting towards eachother and worried we're over. We're giving it one more shot.

I know the problem is me, because I'm finding it difficult to let go of the pain so we can both move on and start to like eachother once again. Any ideas?

Answer 1

Girl! It sounds like the both of you have alot on your plate. It sounds like a mini vacation is in order. It can give you both a chance to relax, unwind, enjoy each other's company, and have romantic nights alone just the two of you.

Answer 2

All relationships gp through these kind of phases so please dont worry to much..especially not about not sex for a week or two! there'l be times when your perfectly happy togther but go months;) moving home n changing jobs are stressful events, try not to take too much of that stress out on each other and focus on the good in your relationship

Answer 3

its hard to solve a problem when u dont kno the source. things here are obvious. its up to u to bring back things to where u want them to be. let go the pain cos it will never do you good. its costing ur relationship alot and u might regret. if u really love him. please let go the pain. i think the idea of going for holiday will be better, u can have the whole time for urselves and try to talk things out., its all in ur hands.

Answer 4

take a break and figure out whether you still love each other or being together has become just a habit...