Its since 1 year i met my girl and proposed her, she's a good hearted & honest girl, we both luv each other a lot, We had decide to get married 3 months back, that time my girl want a little time for her to convince her parents, now that she had her time, she needs more time, another year or so, i would have agreed to her, if my mother's health was ok, but her health is deteriorating day by day, so my parents want me to get married as early as possible, My girl is serious except in this marriage matters, she is afraid to approach her parents, and she is more focused towards carreer now, I dont want to force her for marriage as well as loose her either, but i want to knw if i wait for some more time, whats the sure thing that she wont postpone it further, but if i wait i may be risking my parents happiness, Can i belive her ?
2006-11-26 19:33:16 · 10 answers · asked by Akash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't have anything to do with your parents. Yea, it would be nice if they were still around for the wedding. But your girlfriend is that one that you are marrying. If you guilt trip her into marrying you earlier than she wanted, she will regret it and so will you. This is between you and her. You two make the decision and set the date. If she is afraid to approach her parents offer to go there with her, or invite them for dinner and announce it there. Don't rush her because your parents said so, you are grown, you can make your own decisions. Good luck.
2006-11-26 19:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it seems that you turn between two lovers...the love of your family and your girl....Maybe just wait for the time that your girl is emotionally stable . In this situation, its not will u believe her or not....Give him time and space, For years u been together i assume that u beleive her. and also rush decision is always a big mistake...Most important thing is that it's you and her will start a family...what if she want to get married with you but is not certain of her decision most probably your marriage will only end up in divorce. you like that to happen in the long run?......Marriage is just the beginning of being one as two person...its' a tough responsiblity for both of you... And also, if you really bothered and fell that you risk the happiness of your parents, talk to them about it, better yet both of you talk to your parents, i assume that your gf is already bonded with your parents. Explane to them both your situation....and if really you can't stand to wait her...by all means find someone who are willing of your terms....read 1corithians 13:4-7...reflect with it your relationship hope you gain wisdom on it...have a nice day..
2006-11-27 03:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by miss_confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problem is quite a common matter in todays times. you need to identify the real reason behind her hold, is it her parents or is it the career? since you two have been in love , infact you still love each other then try and work together towards a common solution. sit and discuss, and more so keep the faith. let the things come in light and then decide weather to trust her on it or not, an open talk will itself clearify your problem.
2006-11-27 03:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Pranks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is about compromise. if she's not trying to compromise this early on then she will not compromise later on down the road. From what you have told me her side of this is very stupid. she should be able to say to hell with my parents and marry you before your mother dies. I would say ask her about this one more time and if she doesn't give in them move on.
2006-11-27 03:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by peach49444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, well if you love her than you have to give her some time, in the matter of believe that you only can know that whether she is really love u or what , if you think by heart she loves you and you love her too than give her time as well as tell her about your problem if she really loves you she should go and tell her family (pyaar kiya tho darna kya) bye .......all the best,
2006-11-27 03:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by eddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince her parents of what ,don't her parents approve of you or of the marriage.I'M sorry to hear about your mother but you have no choice but to wait.If you love her you will give her the time she needs.
2006-11-27 03:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get married and stay seperately. Get court marriage, regd. and then stay seperately till ur studies, or goals r reached. you both should convence ur parents. so that ur mom's health may also be okey.
2006-11-27 03:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love her and she love u than u have to trust her
2006-11-27 05:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u answer that let me know
2006-12-01 01:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better go convincingly
2006-11-27 05:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by roaringlion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋