Does your toddler do this too?How do you deal with it?

Question

When I change her diaper, she wont put her legs down on purpose. I tell her firmly, then I sorta yell put your legs down so I can put your diaper on.She gets mad.Sometimes I spank her, but not hard, and sometimes it works.Mostly it doesnt though.I have found though if I giggle and laugh my way through diaper changing she will do as I ask. I just feel guilty for getting mad at her independance and her stuburness.I did potty train her for one month about 2 months ago, and she had a set back,but uses the potty about 5 -7 times a week voluntarily.I am thinking of starting again next month.she is 28 months.

Answer 1

What I did was make her a part of the diaper changing routine. When her legs went up, I would take the diaper off then say "Oh thank you, now I can wipe!" Then say, "Now it's time for the A&D!" So after I wipe and got the A&D on, I would ask her to pick up her butt (thus the legs had to go down) Of course, at first she couldn't do that on her own....I gently brought her legs down on top of the clean diaper and would kind of bounce the diaper under her butt. After a few diaper changes she would bring her legs down to lift her own butt so I could finish putting the new diaper on. That's the routine now. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Yes my daughter does this too. She is 30 months old, and I understand you frustration. I tried the potty training thing thinking she would be ready because when she is wet she will tell me she needs a di di change, or sometimes she will even go get a diaper for me. I bought her a potty chair and she wont have anything to do with it. Ive pretty much been dealing with it the same way you do. I try to giggle and laugh my way through the changes too, but also get frustrated, spank her or yell, and then feel guilty after too. Its expecially hard when Im in a hurry and she wont be still. Good luck with starting again on the potty training next month hopefully it will stick with her sense she is already used the potty before.

Answer 3

I've been there, and I've reacted the same way! What has worked for us is just letting him tell us when he wants a new diaper. I know that sounds crazy, but at this age, they know when they are wet or stink. If I notice that he is drooping or has pooped, I suggest to him. Do you want a clean diaper? Sometimes he says yes and lays down right then and there. If he says no, I ask him every 5 to 15 minutes depending on how much he stinks. Are you ready for a clean diaper? Once he thinks that it is his decision to do this, he is much more cooperative and my mood much better. Obviously there are moments this doesn't work like when we're running out the door, or he's really smelly or wet and I just can't stand leaving him like that, but it's worth a shot! It also teaches him the importance of yes and no and that when he uses these words they are listened and payed attention to. If you want her to respond to your no's sometimes you have teach by example. Being a little wet for a while won't hurt them. Best of Luck!

Answer 4

my daughters do that ONLY with their father! i have 2 girls! it might be becuz ur a man... but, why dont u buy her pull ups? my husband has found it easier to change my oldest (3) using pull ups.. also with the potty training, dont always leave it up to her! she will progress slowly , with my daughter (3) who i started potty training at the age of 2!, would sometimes go on her own! or just sit on the potty for long periods of time, to get used to the potty, then when she turned 2 1/2, i started bringing her to the potty 15-20 minutes after she had something to drink, and then she grew fond of the potty and goes alot, altho sometimes she pee's in her diaper to tick me off! LOL! but hey, kids will be kids...

as for the spanking, i can see ur frustration, but honestly , its not spanking worthy, all that is doin, is teaching her that spanking is a way of getting out ur frustrations and she will do that , especially to younger siblings. or she will retaliate even more, just simply get her attention, and firmly say to her " can u please lay still so i can put on ur diaper? "

or just give her something to keep her attention for the time being...

Answer 5

Yes, my daughter does that too. She only uses the diaper for BM's though (she's a stubborn one too) and will pee in the toilet. I've found what works the best for me is patience. Sometime, I know, it's hard; but, stay calm. If she sees you getting upset, she will too. Just talk to her calmly and say 'you're dirty, I need to change you' or something along those lines. I know, people say to be harsh on kids but some are more independent than others and the 'harshness' won't work. Just make it seem like she's making the decision :) Good luck.

Answer 6

yes try to potty train the best is to go strait to panties yes she will pee in them but she will fill the pee and most kids don't like it i have 3 kids one trained at 18mo next @ 17mo 3rd only 4mo but will start at 1 b-day good luck

Answer 7

yeah them sometimes resist diapers. but you should handle it with patience bcos ur yelling is not understood by them

Answer 8

She is prob too young for the potty & deff. too young to be spanked over that!

Answer 9

LOL my son does that same thing. Normal. Give her an interesting item it will distract her. It works wonders for my son! :)