I find myself torn between two paths here, one alone and one with her. But I am waiting for HER to choose. And while I'm waiting here, I find myself thinking of things I want to say to her, ways to really express myself, and it hits me that I want to tell her how much I love her and want to be with her. BUT in the same breath, I want to tell her she's being a selfish *****, that her indecision is breeding contempt and resentment in me for her, and that she ought to think twice before she assumes any guy as nice, as caring, as into her as I am is going to come around and WAIT for her to make up her ******* mind, she really is CRAZY! Should I feel bad for even thinking like that? B/c I honestly feel better just writing that down. (We have/had, I don't even really know right now, dated for about 6 mos and everything started off fantastically)
2006-11-26 18:57:20 · 10 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it is kind of irritating to be in your situation so don't feel bad, it is frustrating. I suggest that you just keep on writing you irritations down here so when she makes that decision, and she chooses you, all you have left are the nice words and feelings. Keep that written, semi-anonymous rants pouring in here!
2006-11-26 19:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should decide what you want. Don't wait around for her to decide your fate.
If you truly want to be with her tell her so. Tell her what you need from a relationship. Then be willing to wait a reasonable time for her to decide if she wants the same things.
She isn't likely to change. I'm assuming that she's an adult. It may be that you will decide you are worth more than waiting around for her to decide what YOUR future will be like. You can envision what you would like your future to look like and then determine if she fits that picture. It's never a good idea to let someone else draw that picture for you.
2006-11-27 03:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Heathery Lane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that at some point, you have to stop questioning her motives, no matter how valid...and start thinking about what it would take to make YOU happy...yes, you....You seem to be in such pain about this all the time...I am sure she is a wonderful person, and I am sure she has very good reasons to be the way she is....but you have valid needs too, and ur level of resentment is growing and growing....Take care of yourself and I hope things will become clearer to you soon....
2006-11-27 03:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked_One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, relax and breath, you are getting all worked up. Don't really know what you asked her but if you don't hear from her soon...you have your answer. sorry. We all want to be sure if we are making the right choice. So if she need's a little time give it to her. You can tell her right out how you feel about her.
Best Wishes to you!
2006-11-27 03:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by miss missions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it seems like you will have to wait a bit longer before she makes up her mind, I advise you to keep writing/letting out what your feeling !i think it does good to let it out!!!!
2006-11-27 03:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. Can you help how you feel right now? Well, neither can she. People don't choose how to feel. So be patient with her and she'll come around. Or not.
2006-11-27 02:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sarcasmo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
men are irritatingly simple. whatever it is that she is trying to make a decision on is possibly more important to her than it is to you. maybe try and figure out the importance of whatever she is deciding. its good to find out before you are married any ways whether things will work out or not. and dont keep your feelings in, share them with her, she will appreciate it.
2006-11-27 03:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jessy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sarcasmo has given the best answer possible for this question.
2006-11-27 03:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeaaa sure u want her u just want sex
2006-11-28 15:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by mamama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON BUDDY !!!
DON'T MAKE YOUR (AND HER'S) LIFE MISERABLE !!!
2006-11-27 03:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋