Recently, my mom passed away of Pneumonia at Singapore General Hospital and as I'm the only son, I feel extremely sad and disappointed. She's 59 years old and I am 23. My 64-year old father too cannot believe what just have happened and have not come to face the reality yet. I have not been eating much since then. Our small 2-room rental flat is in a mess since only my mother do the household chores. We know nuts about household chores! Please, users of Yahoo Answers, what can I do to overcome this extreme grief? Is there any way of healing the pain of my lost mother? Like a free counseling session or financial/cleaning assistance?? Thank you!
2006-11-26 18:33:23 · 10 answers · asked by Mckyboyz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello brother, it sad to hear that you lovely mother pass away...
What i can say is, try to look at a brighter side, life still goes on, you have to take care of your daddy too, as he's also getting old..
i know is very hard to overcome, because of her surrounding had meant alot to both you n your daddy.. but this is life huh!!
Just cry it out alone in your room, and let it go, God knows how you feel and will come to you when you need him.. just call he's name, he may sent some angels to you, help you cheer up and keep you going...
Actually, i'm more concern is your daddy, he had lost a woman of he's life, and you have to be strong to pamper him that you're always there for him, k.. I will always encourage you to be strong and live up like a man, to take care of what you have left now..
All the best to you my friend, may God always be with you all the time..
2006-11-27 16:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I'm sooo sorry that you had to experience this, it's brutal and I wish I could tell you there is something you can do, time and a grief suport group are the best things you can do for yourself and your Father. I lost my Mother also, it's been 7yrs.4months, and I can still smell her hair or feel her hug after all this time! BUT, I can also tell u that it gets easier, different, and more tolerable over time!! U will start to remember the fun things, the special, or even ordinary events that remind u of the role she played in your lives!She will always be with you, ALWAYS!! Give yourself time to grieve, what ever time is right for you. Then seek a suport program, or join an organization. Something to help with the void, I promise you, I swear, this will get easier! Im so sorry.
2006-11-26 18:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by jenny H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about what happened. And...I haven't lost a parent so I can't even imagine what you're going through. But whenever I'm hit really hard with life I just try to keep calm and do things consistently every day. So, chores, for instance, could be a great way to keep out of depression. Just knowing that you need to wake up every morning and keep the household running, maybe help your Dad with the meals and clean up, and try your hardest at work and maybe even run or work out to get rid of any angst...also it may be helpful to talk with your Dad, as I imagine he is probably hurting very much as well. I hope this helps...time really does heal wounds.
2006-11-26 18:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't lost my mother..but my mom has lost hers..she was around 50 and killed in a car crash. My mom was really depressed at first..and just did nothing. Losing someone can be so hard, and I think that you need to understand that she is in a better place now..I know that sounds like crap to you...but just do whatever you can to keep her memory alive. My mom for example started a Stephanie Rumbo memorial fundraiser thing..to raise money for kids.It was my moms way of keeping her mom alive in this world. And about the whole cleaning thing..find a friend of yours that is a girl...a close friend..and have her come over and make fun of it. I also find that when I'm down..that writing poems helps me. So maybe writing a poem about how much she ment to you can help you get over your grief. No matter what just remember that she's watching you, and to see you hurting is probably hurting her..getting over a death in the family takes time..Maybe you and your dad should do something together..something fun...he's lost his wife..and right now having his only is all he's got. Go out to eat..bowling..go see a funny movie...do something to take your minds off of what has happened. I hope things get better for you! -Tisha
2006-11-26 18:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by luckychick123452006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Pray for you and your family in your sadness.
I have a 5 x 7 card taped to the inside of my entrance door. On it is:
Psalm 147:3.
"He healeth the broken in heart,
and bindeth up their wounds".
I've given these cards to people I know
are emotionally distressed.
I pass this card every time I leave my apartment.
I replace the ones I give away which pleases me
more than just making a card and giving it away
Reading the Bible can be a comfort.
Work is good therapy. Do those things your Mom
did to clean up. Your Mom would approve.
2006-11-26 19:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Answers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all learn how to keep house--it would make your mother proud--there is no easy way to get over the loss of someone you loved do much--time heals but in the mean time you need to keep busy --know that she is with God and she is always watching over you and your Dad--Its a fact of life that we all are born to die and yet we seem to never be prepared to deal with the loss..I am so sorry for you and your father but you must keep your life as normal as possible such as keep going to school or work ,don't spend allot of time just sitting and thinking --get out and keep busy,you have plenty of time to just relax and think of her and that's not a bad thing to do its a great way to relieve the pain you are feeling--get out the photo albums and talk about the good times it helps--
God Bless you with this hard journey
2006-11-26 18:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got not gotten something from my son or daughter the two. Oh nicely. i did not deliver my mom a card the two. i assume all human beings toddlers are ungrateful. i will deliver her an e-card. I in basic terms wish i'm getting a telephone call. I usually in basic terms call them. don't be too disillusioned. bear in ideas once you have been youthful and busy mutually with your life?
2016-10-13 04:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. There is nothing that you can do to get over it. Your grief will last for as long as your grief will last. There is nothing that anyone can do to shorten that time. In the meantime...you have two perfently good hands (you used them to type your question). You know where things go and the places that your mom used to put them in. Do it yourself! No one else will do it for you and paying someone to do it just makes you lazy.
2006-11-26 18:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by T!ff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. May your mother go in peace.
Try remember of when your time with her and be strong.
For this time, both of you and your father wont got heart to cleans mess on house, Try hire amah to help out at home.
Always said to yourself, your mother loves you be a happy boy.
2006-11-26 18:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i'm so sorry! u know, when someone death, i'm happy, b cuz
back to the first, and maybe born again, or stat near the God!
die is a wish for all of us, to near to god.this camel sleep front of all doors!
2006-11-26 18:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Professional 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋