I know dry spells are normal but my boyfriend recently went 3 WEEKS without touching me ONCE!!!
This isn't the first time. He went 2 weeks a few months ago.
I've brought this point up to him and asked him what is his problem and he says it's because I'm a B_i_t_c_h to him so much, he doesn't want to have sex at all.
I'm not so sure I believe that excuse and besides, I'm rarely ever a *****, I just stand up for myself!
He once told me the exact same thing about his ex wife - (and she cheated on him!) He said at that point they were barely having sex anymore because she'd pissed him off so many times.
He's not good at providing me with intimacy and I've complained about that before and sometimes he'll call me by his ex wife's name to irritate me, because apparently - she used to have the same complaints.
What is the deal??
PS - he's 37.
2006-11-26 18:33:10 · 7 answers · asked by Brownie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He heh, yeah.
He prefers Blondies.
2006-11-26 18:45:24 · update #1
sounds like my EX. Leave him. You can do better. He has a major problem with women.
2006-11-26 18:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by nowisthetime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-27 02:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um you obviously know why he is not giving you any... he complains that you are being a biatch all the time... and you say that you simply stand up for yourself. try to remember that loving someone is not always going to be right. self-righteousness is privilege in a relationship, not a right. if you love him, try to just keep one eye open and one eye close. don't pick on everything he does or he doesn't do.
if you are looking for intimacy, why are you expecting it from him?? i mean, why can't you create that intimacy so he follows?
as you can see this problem happened before and you shouldn't expect him to change. people don't change, they just had on a mask when you first started going out with them.
you have two choices: one, you accept who he is and try to be even nicer to him. and hope that you will get some. two, you can leave him bc this is how he is and if you can't take it, don't punish youself.
good luck
2006-11-27 02:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by BlueGirl007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older men usually have lower libidos. I'm not saying all of them or that they can't do it, but the "urge to do it" usually is lessened. I suggest that you find someone else who can satisfy you. Not only was he mean to you, but theres no getting around things like this cause, nobody can stop getting old and feeling its effects. Find another guy who'll treat you right and satisfy you as well.
2006-11-27 02:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you think is "standing up for yourself" is what he views as belitting or demeaning him. Do you always have to be right in an argument? Do you always have to have the last word? Do you think his views and opinions aren't as important as yours? Maybe that's what he thinks. Get to the root of what bothers him about you and you'll reconnect.
2006-11-27 02:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by supensa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! I agree-Get out.He shouldn't be talking to you like that. Absolutely not!!
2006-11-27 02:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by slaughter114 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't like brownies
2006-11-27 02:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋