I started dating this guy 5 weeks ago. From the beginning it's like he fell in love. He always called, took me on super expensive dates, told everyone how much he liked me, wanted to introduce me to his family, invited me on vacation with his friends. Anyways, I thought it was going a bit fast. So, his birthday was this week and he wanted me to meet all his friends and all his family. I politely declined because I didn't want to intrude since we weren't boyfriend or girlfriend. I also, mistakingly mentioned on our last date that there was another guy that was calling me. Well, this weekend he cancelled our date. He called me tonight and it got a little bit weird and I told him "This is awkward" and laughed and he asked me what was, and then he said, I think we should slow things down. I think I rushed into this and pushed you into things, I think we should slow things down. I am heartbroken. He said he would call me soon. What happened? I'm hurt. Was I basically dumped?
2006-11-26 18:25:11 · 4 answers · asked by Katy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s. I really like him alot and when I explained that I did and about the mix up about mentioning the other guy that was calling me and how I liked him alot, he was surprised. Then he kind of went from 'let's be friends' to 'let's just slow things down. I still wanna see you and talk to you, I just want to take it slower' type thing.
2006-11-26 18:28:12 · update #1
Other way around sister. You basically dumped him. He was all hyped about sharing you with the rest of the family. He really liked you, and at the one time he wanted you to be there the most, you told him no. He is a do it now guy. You should have been OPEN with him instead of CLOSED. You cut him down on the idea, and you basically said to him that you are not ready for bigger things. He wants a girl that is, so you are basically out!! I would do the same thing with a girl that does not tell me the truth.
Here is how you can save it. Tell him why you didn't really want to come. Apologize for lying and letting him down. Then, discuss that things were moving to fast and that you actually do like him. He thinks you don't.
Hope that helps!
2006-11-26 18:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a very sensible young lady. You have acted with absolute honesty and openness and I believe that if he was the one for you, he would have accepted your feelings and continued the relationship at the pace that suited you. It is refreshing to hear that a young woman is showing such a mature attitude. I wish you were my friend.
2006-11-26 18:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by kytho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it just means ya'll need to slow down 5 WEEKS isnt long enough for him. Just give him some time...He'll come around
2006-11-26 18:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just slow down. he realized that he rushed you and is giving you your space... enjoy it while it lasts!!!
2006-11-26 18:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋