I took my 9 year old step son who is with us on the weekends to my in laws house. My son and his cousin were playing for a couple hours and when we left I noticed that my son had taken pokemon cards, a pokemon toy, and game. When I asked my son he said that they were his. When his father got home I told him of what happened and we don't know what to do now. How do we approch our son? We know that he took the items dispite his saying they were his. Do we make him take them back to his cousin and appoligize or do we take them back and apoligize? We are really embaressed! We have not had to deal with a situation like this before and don't have any idea how to start the conversation with our son. Please help any advice will be concidered.
2006-11-26 18:18:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
By the way I am the step mom.
2006-11-26 18:34:26 · update #1
Make HIM take them back. Make HIM apologize in person and make HIM write a letter to each person HE stole from saying why HE was sorry and why HE will never do it again. Don't make any excuses for HIM. HE is old enough to know what he did was wrong, and HE needs to owe up to it.
Then I would make HIM give some of HIS toys to needy children who really can't afford nice things and show HIM that HE has it good. Then ground HIM.
2006-11-26 18:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Check with in-laws to make sure someone didn't give them to him which I doubt but just to be on the safe side. If they weren't given to him then he MUST return the items with a full and sincere (even faked sincere) APOLOGY ASAP!!! This kind of thing can not only lead him to think he can just TAKE things from others which will ruin his life since Walmart is not as forgiving as you and your husband are but this can hurt the entire family. If he doesn't return the items himself, and apologize himself then this could cause perm damage to the family relationships. The cousins will never trust him again. The in-laws will fill victimized etc. Also, he should have some additional punishments to endure for this terrible deed. Stealing is wrong no matter what. Yet there is something extra ugly about stealing from family and other loved ones.
2006-11-26 18:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Indigo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him how he would feel if his cousin stole his toys?? try and give him all the information to make the right decision to tell the truth let him know that for example if he tells the truth and gives the items back and says sorry and never does it again he will only be grounded or whatever u do for 1 week if he chooses not to tell the truth you will call his aunt/uncle ask if the same things are missing and make him tell them he stole them and lied about it this is important do not let your embarrassment stop you from teaching your step child the right lesson all events in our life make us who we are so think long about all the advice you have been given and set a good plan stick to the punishment and don't you apologise for him you did not tell him to do it and there are enough thief's in the world. he is only a child and kids make mistakes nip this in the bud and i am sure he will turn into a fine young man good luck
2006-11-26 20:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is ask the cousin if he gave them to your son. If he didn't and no one else did ask your son where he got them. If he can't come up with a good answer then you need to take him back to his cousins and give them back with a very big apology. You'll also need to figure out some sort of punishment.
2006-11-26 18:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The father has to go to the son and talk with him. He should take his son to the cousin, return the items, with a huge apology.
2006-11-27 01:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be like look, i know you stole those from your cousin.... and make him give them back and appologize. if you do it for him he will not get the expieriance of feeling bad about it when he has to tell them. it happens all little kids steal at one point or another. just remember to be firm with him. it is not being mean, it is teaching him a life lesson. if he finds this time that there are no reprocutions for his actions then he will continue to do it but with bigger things and eventualy if this behavuor is not curbed then he very well could end up in jail for stealing in the future. nip it while hes young and while the problem is still easily solvable. good luck man
2006-11-26 18:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 14:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the other boys parents ask if he is missing the items because you saw them n your sons room & you did not think they were his, then have him return them w/ a apology. You have no need to be embarressed, he however does. You can not let it go, or he will continue
2006-11-26 18:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT too early to have a sit down talk with your stepson, and inform him that you and your husband WANT him to not only confess his thefts, but to bring them back PERSONALLY to his Cousin and APOLOGIZE to the Cousin HIMSELF -- say he was sorry, and that he promises the cousin if he plays with him again, that he will NOT steal anything else from him.
2006-11-26 18:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your in-laws first to make sure they do belong to his cousin. Then yes, make him take them back and apologize. It is an embarrassing situation but you need to deal with it or it will continue
2006-11-26 18:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by sharkgirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋