Im 21, so i really need help on this marriage thing
2006-11-26 18:17:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
money is no object
2006-11-26 18:22:49 · update #1
No, im paying for the wedding
2006-11-26 18:36:16 · update #2
Are you and her good friends? Does she like you enough to give her blessing on the marriage? I would wedding planner because they are professionals and know what they are doing.
2006-11-26 18:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by RAW DIVA™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice to know that money is no problem--but when you say that is it because you personally are not paying for the wedding??Is your folks or in laws to be paying for it?? Any way its a matter of the size of the wedding and the time you have to spend on it--Have you thought of what kind of wedding you and your husband to be want?? Some people fall into having a wedding that they are not comfortable with like a huge drawn out thing with all the glam when really you are more comfortable with a smaller intimate affair--you need to keep in mind that the wedding is a reflection of you and your beau..so make it just that-don't be talked into doing something that you wont enjoy its supposed to be the first day of the rest of your lives together and if the stress level is too much?? Then that's a bad start don't you think?? Its OK to go either way a planner or in law help as long as the final decisions are made by you and your hubby. Just remember this is YOUR wedding ..Have fun don't regret any of the decisions made and don't be afraid to speak your peace of mind in the decisions ..
God Bless you in your walk into holy matrimony
2006-11-27 02:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have both. Include your own mom, too. This is a great chance to do some bonding together. Your mom and MIL have been through the marriage thing before (I assume), and will have special insights into family traditions that will make your wedding special.
But the wedding planner is a PRO. S/he has seen tons of weddings, knows what can go wrong and right, and can steer you the right way. Also, she might be able to get professional discounts. I know you say money is no object, but I hope you get over that attitude before you dig yourself into a hole.
Be sure you get a good wedding planner -- ask for references from any friends or relatives who have married recently. And then ask for references from the wedding planner AND call them. A lousy wedding planner is much worse than going it all alone, IMO.
Congratulations!
2006-11-27 02:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have both as they will both be able to help you and make your life a little bit easier
If you have your mother-in-laws input it will bring the two of you closer and you will be able to bounce ideas off each other, providing that you get on well with her. If you don't get on very well with her and she is the pushy type then you have to be careful that it doesn't turn into the wedding she wants rather than the one you want and if she is like this then get a wedding planner in and just let mother-in-law help with the odd bits.
However if you get on well with your mother-in-law then it’s a nice way to bring the two of you closer and the two of you will learn a lot about each other and you will also find out things out the family and you will have that special bond and she will like you all the more for including her
2006-11-27 05:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will always say a wedding planner, if you find a good one. Wedding planners (professional wedding planners that are not related to you) are a staple. They have unbiased opinions about your wedding situation and look out for your best interest first and foremost. Your mother-in-law may not be biased, but in the back of her mind, her tastes, concerns, and MONEY will always come into play. Make it easy on yourself, hire a planner and allow your future mother-in-law to assist you in your wedding day decision making.
2006-11-27 03:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by MDeezy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding planners are great for a number of reasons...since they are constantly going to vendors with clients, the vendors are more likely going to give a deal to the wedding planner than to your mother in law. Even though money is no object, wedding planners will save you time and stress...
2006-11-27 14:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say a wedding planner or try to do it yourself with help from your MIL and other family members. Weddings are stressful for everyone involved. The good thing about a wedding planner is they are used to stressed out brides and won't take any differences of opinion or your being stressed out personally. I get along well with my MIL but we did have some trouble during the period of time when we were planning our wedding.
2006-11-27 13:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by LLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have time on your hands, do it yourself! I'm 18 and I've had an amazing time planning my wedding! It's too expensive to pay for a wedding planner! Think of something else you can spend that money on! You'll be fine on planning it yourself! Use www.weddingchannel.com and www.theknot.com to help you with everything! Also, your mother-in-law to be may end up taking over the wedding, causing problems with you and your fiance. Your maid of honor should help a lot!
2006-11-27 11:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Amber C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, use a wedding planner. You may like your future mother-in-law, and you will want to continue "to like" her in the future i.e.; if something goes "wrong" (heaven forbid!), it will be the "wedding planner's fault". If you think your future mother-in-law has some good ideas, tell her so, then run them by the wedding planner for possible incorporation in the wedding plans. After all it is "your" wedding.
2006-11-27 03:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Celesta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd personally say a wedding planner. If you veto something they suggest, it will be no big deal .... but if it is from your future MIL, it may hurt her feelings. I guess it really depends on how close you are to her and how much you're willing to give in to her, if that does become an issue. I've just seen several friends who wished they hadn't let their MIL's be the planner because the whole process can get so stressful that it caused strained relations between them.
2006-11-27 02:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by schaianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋