wat do u think of a muslim girl married to a christian guy?

Question

our kids wat religion would they hold? will my parents accept this? what would happen?

Answer 1

Salaam Sister,

Please do not despair when our brothers and sisters tell you it is wrong for you to marry a non-Muslim. Such belief, even if it is stated in the Holy Qur'an, is outdated and does not apply to a time in which Islam has over a million followers. I know a Muslim woman who is married to a Hindu man and they each practice their separate religions in peace. However, I do not know how they intend to raise any children they bear.

The Qur'an tells us that it is a child's right to be raised as a Muslim. Children, however, are also humans and have free will, and it would be un-Islamic to force Islam onto them. I suggest you raise your children to love God. Read to them from the Qur'an, but also the Gospels and the Torah. Take them to a Mosque, and allow them to go to Church with their father. In fact, I would encourage you to even research and learn about other religions with them as they grow older. We are told to seek knowledge, and with knowledge, we will find the straight path. If God wills, your children will choose Islam. If God wills, your children will choose some other religion. Your only responsibility is to teach your children about the virtues and merits of Islam, and let them choose. God will guide them wherever they go.

Do talk about this with your boyfriend or fiance, this will be a very important issue that you will have to face every day in your marriage with patience, love and kindness. Both of you must be ready to make such a commitment and stick to it.

May Allah guide you on the right path.
And Allah knows best.

Answer 2

If the marriage is for the right reason, then there would be perfect union. Parents should accept people for who they are - not what they may want them to be.

The quoran acknowleges Jesus, but places Him as a another Prophet. There are so many similarities, one could wonder if they are just two of the parts of the same - just as judism was a forerunner of christianity (even though it is an alternate religion at this point in time).

In the choice of religion for any children, provided they are given all the information, they will follow their own true course in fulfilment of time. Religion is their choice - not the parents - to be made when thay have obtained full awareness.

Good parents guide, and their issue will find their truth.

Answer 3

This is a tough situation. I know that there is nothing in the Christian faith that denounces marrying outside the Christian Faith. Jesus tells his followers that it is OK as long as the other person does not interfere with their faith.

I do not know what the beliefs are for the Muslim faith.

As for your parents. I would say it doesnt matter what they think if the two of you love each other they dont have much to do with it.

As for your kids. That would deffiently have to be the hardest part. You two would really need to talk about this. Would you want your kids muslim? Would he want the Christian? That could really create future problems,. That is something both of you need to really think about and explore. Maybe the two of you could teach them both faiths, and never really direct them to one or another.

Answer 4

I would have hoped you would have discussed these matters prior to being married. What religion you wish your children to be is a matter that both of you should agree on. Whether or not your parents agree with what you decide is not their concern nor should it be a factor in your decision. But, there is nothing wrong with your children being brought up with one religion, but being exposed to the traditions and holidays of the other religion. I had a friend who's mom was Catholic and father was Jewish. The children were brought up in the Catholic church, but still celebrated the Jewish holidays of their father. Nothing says that once the decision is made, that the children ignore the heritage of their elders. It can be done, but you and your husband have to stand fast and TOGETHER with your decision, whatever it may be and regardless of what either of yours parents think and feel. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

I think if, you love each other, go for it. It might be best to have a non religious wedding, or a wedding christian style for the christian family and then another one Muslim style for the Muslim side. If the parents don't approve, talk it over with them and try to help to be open minded. If they won't go for it, do it without their approval. Raise your kids to be open minded and help them to understand both beliefs. Good luck!

Answer 6

They would probably have decided on this before marriage since religion can be such a sticky issue. From what I've seen muslim women who marry men outside of their religion either have to convert them to Islam or leave their faith and move away from their family.

Answer 7

Personally, I think if you really love the guy then go for it. What does religion matter in this case? As for your children, you should see which one seems more innate to them. I have no clue about your parents but they should be openminded about this situation. Best of luck

Answer 8

Do they love each other? If so, then it is great! I cant speak for your parents, but I would hope they would be OK with it too. I hope you introduce your kids to both ideas but let them make up their own minds in the end

Answer 9

I think it could lead to a lot of problems for them and their kids. Its known fact that people of mixed marriages have a higher divorce rate.

Marriage is hard enough without people arguing about theology

Answer 10

It's really not smart to have interfaith marriages, yea it might be all happy and fine at first, you can make compromises for each other, but when kids come along that's when the trouble starts. Then you'll be fighting about which religion to raise the child and then you'll maybe try to compromise by saying "well we can take them to both church and the mosque" then the children get confused, decide to abandon religion altogether and now you have atheist/agnostic children. Then you guys end up divorcing because you have too many differences and it's just not working out. You see, this could have all been avoided if you married someone of your own religion...