I can't turn on my boyfriend.?

Question

I can't do anything anymore. I touch him, kiss him, i touch myself in front of him. Nothing works, i feel like such a loser. Any suggestions?

Okay well, i am very attractive, i get hit on just about every day, by men and women. I have talked to him, i have asked him what he likes and what turns him on and he says he doesnt know. He says i dont act normal when i try to turn him on. I dont know what that means because i act horny and in to him when i try to turn him on. I have had a few boyfriends and have done the same thing to try to turn them on and it never failed. Only with him it is failing. He is a brainiac and thinks about school and music more then anything else. I do love him and we have been together for more then a year. I want to works things out, but i dont know how. I dont know what to ask him anymore, i dont know how to get through to him. My tears do nothing to let him know how i feel anymore. It sucks.

Answer 1

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Answer 2

So.. cant turn him on?

Why not tease him but not do anything. Make him yearn for you. Eat a banana in front of him. Whisper in his ear but don't do anything you say you will. Be a damn tease.

And if that doesn't work then i would seriously think about finding out who he's into or banging on the side. Guys are very male and males are horny. If he's more on the brainy side then maybe he feels that the relationship has only turned to sex. Maybe someone else is filling his mind with thoughts of deception. Talk to him if anything. Find out what he wants.

Answer 3

shellz my heart goes out for you. really i am in the same situation and i tried talking to him and it doesnt work all that much
but he needs to know this somehow, if he doesnt do something you will dump him (even if u wont) he needs to talk to a therapist and so do you
also he needs to know that he's hurting you and that u will start feeling resentful towards him
i think unless u are really in love with him , leave him because this is a never ending hearache
shellz all i can say is good luck and talk about it if he doesnt tell u why he's doing this give him a couple of chances
then leave...
good luck hon
p.s i gained weight and was depressed and started dressing down because of this matter so watch out hon :) dont go that route

Answer 4

Yes, don't try so hard.
You are not the loser if he is not responding to
you.
There are other people in this world who would
appreciate you. You dont have to say or use it against him, life is a choice and you can choose not to be with him.
When you are ready you can give again to someone whole likes the affections and spontaneous you have to offer.
Don't stay where you don't feel wanted or needed, life is too short.

Answer 5

Why do feel like a loser because he has some issues? Something is going on with him. Is he cheating or depressed? Whatever it is its his problem. There are too many guys out there that would be so turned by you. You need to dump that clown. Especially if your own self-esteem is being affected. Men come and go but you will be with yourself forever.

Answer 6

Forgive my rude question, but it's one that women like to pretend does not matter: What do you look like? How many unsatisfied women have I known who were noticeably overweight and yet WONDERED why they weren't being fulfilled by the man in their life. Ever notice how mostly it's homely women with non-committal guys in their life? Sorry for sounding so shallow, but let's not keep ignoring the elephant in the room. And no, you are NOT attractive just because your overweight gal pals think you're really cute. If no guys are hitting on you when you're driving alone on the road, then you have your answer.

Answer 7

Is everything else good in the relationship? If it is, I know that it is a big thing, but its only one thing. How about just asking him what he likes?....wait...does he look at a lot of porn? If he does, then that is the problem. He is desensized and has becaome accustomed to staring at the tv screen and making the women in the videos the object of his affection and if your look varies from the look of the girls in the films, then he's got a wee bit of a problem.

Answer 8

Request him to give you oil massage starting from the back and be ready for the surprise act and gift

Answer 9

It has nothing to do with you and you know this already.. I suggest talking to him, asking him what he needs, or what is going on?
If that doesn't work, then stop trying , and whatever has already happened will soon be made clear to you.. There is something he's not telling you, and he's probably embarassed. You will know soon.

Answer 10

find someone else...n stop fooling urself...coz he had whatever he wanted....already with u...doesnt need it anymore..again when he will need them..then u wont hav to turn him on...so just get a life...n stop askin such stupid questions from yahoo user....:P