Greetings,
While reviewing the gust list for my son's 13th birthday party I asked about a few kids I did not know. He invited one girl because she was hot. Then we came to this boy, he sayed he did not really know him but he is of a different faith then us. I tryed to tell him that bigotry is wrong and to invite this kid because of his different faith is just as wrong as not inviting him. I don't think he got the concept. Any suggestions on how to explane this to a future teen ager. His concern is that he will be called a racist or something along those lines.
2006-11-26 17:57:09 · 7 answers · asked by Cleve T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My suggestion is to explain it to him like this: say that you have two cookies. Now, his favourite cookie is chocolate chip (just as an example). So the obvious choice would be to get two of your favourite cookies- two chocolate chip cookies. Why would he choose a sugar cookie just because it's different? Affirmative Action (something that, in today's society, he should know about) was something that, in theory, sounded like a good idea- but has convoluted the system to where people make choices based on fear. Fear of being called racist, fear of being target by people, fear of being publicly humiliated in a drawn-out legal and moral battle- whatever. It's good that this issue has come up, so that you have an opportunity to explain to your child that fear of the future can paralyze one and force them to make unrational decisions. So what if he's called a racist? He knows that he's not, and you know that he's not, and that's what matters, in the end. I doubt that in a year he'll be remembered as 'that kid who didn't invite any Muslims/Indians/etc. to his party'. Oh, and Happy 13th Birthday!
2006-11-26 18:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have a great kid!!!
I'm afraid now he's getting a mixed mesage, bcuz you've drilled into him the importance of inclusion right?
Now is the time to tell him that race or religion has nothing to do with if you like someone or not.
He could dislike a Christian white kid, and his best friend could be a black Muslim.
What matters is; race and religion aside, do you have a connection?
If not, no one could or should call him a racist for choosing his own friends.
However, if this guest in question would feel left out, and you are aware of that, then it becomes a question of etiquette.
If this is the case, I would invite this boy
2006-11-26 18:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ought to assert certain. There are few questions the following that i ought to respond to definitively contained in the moral section. i ought to ask the nineteen year previous to imagine about what it became like for him to be 13 and then imagine about how his female friend became 7-years previous on the time. i ought to recent that to the lady to boot and characteristic her attempt to imagine relationship a 7 year previous. it isn't an equivalent partnership and hence this is going to likely be an risky relationship. ladies do mature swifter than boys contained in the psychological section so in the experience that they are the kind that date yet do not have a actual relationship and they were a touch closer in age. If she became a million to 2 years older i ought to assert particular. bodily that's a disaster waiting to take position although that.
2016-11-27 00:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your son that he should invite people based on his desire to have them at his party...not because he feels he has to invite someone, but because they are his friends and wants them there to share his birthday.
2006-11-26 18:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by thereis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good to purposely invite others you know are unlike yourself. It creates opportunities to learn about other points of view and enhance your own perspective. I would be more concerned if he were only inviting others because they were like him. You should encourage his interest in creating diversity.
2006-11-26 18:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain it with terms he would better understand.
Change it to something to do with baseball terms or football. Something that he could more easily relate to then show him how that relates to the current situation.
2006-11-26 18:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by supermonkey081 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wanted to include him in order to get to know him. maybe he wanted to learn about his faith. broadening his horizons is not wrong.
2006-11-26 17:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋