I ask this in the religion catagory because she now says things like it was a sin and the sin is hers. I only had the procedure done because her doctor advised it. She very nearly died carrying our daughter and her doctor advised against any more pregnancies for her life's sake. We have two wonderful children, an older boy as well as the daughter, and since the operation was less invasive for the man, vasectomy vs tube tying, I had it done.
She was in total agreement at the time but now seems to think that it was a crime against God and nature and says that it has ruined sex for her.
I miss the sex, I won't try to lie about that, but I am really more worried about her mental state since I don't know where this stuff she is saying is coming from. She won't discuss with me it to any degree and refuses to see a marriage counsoler or talk to her doctor about it as a medical problem and says that I should accept the situation.
2006-11-26 17:55:27 · 3 answers · asked by MEL 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She is Catholic and although she is very devout I don't think of her faith as being extreme, I'm not Catholic myself. Even if the situation IS grounds for divorce I don't want to leave her. I gave my word about that back when we got married and I take those vows seriously. Thank you but any other ideas?
2006-11-26 18:09:31 · update #1
I'm Christian, my husband had it done, no problem, but for Catholics i think it's different, I'm not sure why. I would try talking to her and stressing how worried you are about her. This would definitely be something that needs to be discussed in a marriage.
Good luck and God bless
2006-11-26 18:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by believer26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a counselor without her and discuss your options. Surely she could have covered all these beliefs before the vas. If she will not have sex with you it is a grounds for divorce in some states. You may end up having a reversal procedure done and see how she acts. But talk to a counselor or therapist first. She has some other issues you may not be aware of yet. Best of luck to you!!
2006-11-27 02:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a real problem. She is going to a fanatical church isn't she? Get her out now. She is already showing signs of brainwashing. Good luck.
2006-11-27 01:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋