I'm really good at talking to people, and am even a better listener, so why is it so hard for me to talk to girls? I get all shy when a pretty girl is around, I can't think of anything to say, and start to get all silent. I know I want to say something but its like my mind goes blank. Any advice on my problem?
2006-11-26 17:48:44 · 6 answers · asked by peacefulwreck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a nice safe question would be: "what kind of music do you like?" or compliment something about her. happens to guys early on in dating..but when you get older you wont have that to worry about anymore :)
2006-11-26 17:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by lovingangel323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to have the same problem. You know how I've gotten over it? First, I realized long ago that time is short. What you say today probably won't even matter tomorrow. So just say the first thing on your mind when you see that pretty girl (preferably a compliment, or something funny). Second, I began to see girls as different individuals. I realized that they have interests, hobbies, insecurities, etc. just like myself. Some girls might be a little intimidating superficially, but you must realize that they are just the same as any one of us on the inside. There's nothing to be afraid of. You will always have something in common. Hope whatever I'm saying makes sense and you'll change the way you approach pretty girls.
2006-11-27 02:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Derfboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello peacefulwreck,
I know that it's rough, but this all takes practice. You don't come out of the womb as a Mac Daddy. ;-) It's just like when you first learned to chat with other people. Rehearse some common questions to ask and practice them in the mirror.
Also you need to learn to flirt. Learn to keep eye contact and smile. That shows that you're interested in them and the smile show that you're fun to be with. Just keep at it and don't get discouraged. You can do this.
Also, you need to check out the Tom Leykis radio show to learn more about what you should do. You definitely need to learn a little Leykis-101 to get more women in your life. Find out if this show is broadcast in your area. Here's his web site:
http://www.blowmeuptom.com
I hope that this helps you. Good luck and happy hunting.
--Rick
2006-11-27 02:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not us women have that problem to we are better at hiding it then you are.So remember no matter what you say to her she is just glad you started the conversation.So don't sweat it relax if she likes what you look like she will talk to you.
2006-11-27 02:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally relate - as soon as there's a good-looking guy i'm not confident enough - takes me a while to open up....for me it's got to do with self-esteem - not feeling attractive enough myself etc....is it the same for you maybe?
i guess - n i need to take my own advice lol - you gotta forget bout all that and just go with it...talk bout general things like good music or movies that are out....good luck
like your nickname btw
2006-11-27 02:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by lexie1488 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get your facts straight.
"I'm really good at talking to people, but it's hard for me to talk to girls."
Am I the only one who sees a contradiction here?
2006-11-27 01:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋