There is a guy who I've liked since sixth grade, which was nearly four years ago. Then, I told him I like that I really like him and I wanted to be friend. He replied saying, "I don't want a gf right now partly because I'm too shy" and then I realized I never mentioned anything about wanting to be his gf. Anyhow, I told him I wanted to be just friends too. He's really reserved. The 'cool loner' but I think he's way too shy maybe even scared to show people how he feels. I really like him but it's hard to tell if he like me back or if ever he'll like me back. One of my friends thinks he does and I have the same feeling but it's sketchy because he seems to be ignoring/avoiding me at times. He's very different from the other guys (modest, simple, smart, athletic, well-mannered, not bad looking, in other words he's perfect) and that's what I like about him. He has such great qualities in him and I know many girls are falling head over heels for him. If only he realizes how speacial he is.
2006-11-26 17:48:14 · 3 answers · asked by Accidentally in Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to your question i have nothing to comment on, but to the title it took me 5 years to be with my best friend. if you want to deal with the heart-ack of not knowing for sure you can go ahead. it may or may not work out.
2006-11-26 17:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by theswarm666x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-27 02:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
It looks like your on a good path
in knowing what you like in a guy.
Keep up your investigative approach and proceed
slowly as you are doing.
A relationship may the furthest thing on his mind right now.
His precoccupation with other things is not a bad thing, At least he would not be distracted by all of the other girls out there.
Distractions can lead to underachievements, and focus can lead to achievement. Which is more beneficial?
2006-11-27 02:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sunny2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋