How long does it take for a broken heart to mend?

Question

About a year ago the love of my life ended our three year relationship after a weekend of arguing. Although I know that things were getting bad between us, I always thought we could work through anything. I admit that I made a lot of mistakes and put her through a lot but I never thought that she would walk away. Now she is in love with another man and although I have been with a few women since her, none of them can manage to erase her memory or the constant pain that I feel from her absence in my life. To this day, over a year later, I literally think of her from the moment I wake until I fall asleep only to endure another night of dreaming of her. Is my heart eternally broken? If there is such a thing as a soul mate, Did I find mine and let her slip through my fingers? and if so, how does one recover from such a devastating event? I am convinced that I will never truly love again, but, if you have another theory please let me know.

Answer 1

You will forever love and think about her.... that is a fact. The thing is that with time and more dating, it will fade. I hope for your sake that you dont have to see her a lot bc that is just like picking an old scab... not very productive. I would try to avoid her until the pain of losing her at least dulls a little. I think you will find love, but you need to close the chapter of your life that included her first. Give it time... all wounds heal.

Answer 2

Tell her this is how you feel. Maybe you have not brought proper closure to your relationship. She may say she doesn't love you anymore and not even want to get back to you but then you know it is really over. You may need an full fact answer then you can bury the heartache and move on because there is a woman who is waiting for a guy like you to come into her life not just for a quick relationship but for life. If your ex was a soul mate you would not of broken up because it would of been both ways like Romeo and Juliet you both would of come back.
You just need to bring closure to your past it doesn't mean you will forget but you will find peace and the true woman of your life is waiting. You will heal in time but you got to allow yourself to heal and find acceptance.
You said "after a weekend of arguing. Although I know that things were getting bad between us, I always thought we could work through anything."
Arguing, bad between us, these are not the words of relationship of love These are the words of long term despair.
You will find a woman where arguing and bad will not be there because your love will not allow it. There would be basis of being soul mates when you have a relationship where selfless love for your partner is greater than self interest.

Answer 3

Know what? Hate to say it..but it never really mends..you can get distracted and carry on, fall in love...but..that memory will always be there. I too had a 3 year relationship collapse last June. Nearly killed me! It's life, and that's just the way it is. Dwell on the good memories, it helps. Been through this stuff myself. Single and hurting right now. Chin up and good luck!

Answer 4

Its really funny how god works,I was with mine for 5 years thought he was my knight in shining armor,until my angel appeared was with him for 2 were still friends,and now im engaged to someone else, we have our days but you'll be fine one day you'll wake up and it just wont hurt anymore ,you'll look back and think what was i thinking ,god doesnt give you anything you cant handle.

Answer 5

tis normal to think of you ex for ages afterwards especially if you the one dumped , hurts like hell for ages im afraid . I still think of my ex sometimes 5 yrs later ..(no feelings just wonder what shes doing etc ) ..kinda like if someone dies except worse because death is final . where with ex's you know they still around somewhere .

Answer 6

It depend on how bad you want it to mend ... it might take a long time , or it might be over in a week ...