Honestly. Girls always tell you to give the cold shoulder to a man when he does something really wrong. That or the immediate 'dump him' card.
But! Even if the guy is at fault, will the silent treatment truly make him come around or merely become more irritated? Does this tactic ensure apologies or just stirring the pot?
Guys - experiences, viewpoints, anything.
2006-11-26 17:42:17 · 24 answers · asked by Krystle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes it does cause it will and does drive us crazy esp. if we truley love the person that is giving us the cold shoulder. we do not know what is going to happen next is she going to leave or stay
2006-11-26 17:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by sptech1994 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it may work with some but not all men are the same plus that is a very immature and juvenile way to handle anything you need to learn to sit down calmly and talk it out. Don't talk until you have both calmed down even if it takes a few days to do it. More can be resolved when your calm
2006-11-26 17:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by MereBear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Krystle
I'm married now so it doesn't happen that often, if at all.
But when it did happen, I was able to return the favor of ignoring her.
Once she realized that the S.T. doesn't work, she would come crawling back, depending on how strong the "need" was.
It's a poor tactic used by women who think that they "wear the pants" in a relationship, and I think, a sign of immaturity.
Just being honest.
2006-11-26 17:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a man and I'm telling you it might work on some guys but it doesn't work on most.It is just really annoying if thats what your trying to do its working for sure but I think the best suggestion is to talk it out if he did something horrible like cheating dump em cause if you take him back he will do it again trust me my ex took me back 3 times before she learned!
2006-11-26 17:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication will save a nation. If you don't communicate you have nothing. It's disrespectful actually. You would be better off expressing yourself and ending it or trying to working it out. Make sure that whatever you choose to do that you stick to it. If not he will take you for a joke and who knows how far he will push the envelope then.
2006-11-26 17:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are from Mars!
Give him the cold shoulder - he won't know why.
He'll ask if anything is wrong and you tell him "no" in a snarky way. He'll think, "She said nothing is wrong" but won't interpret the tone.
So stop playing games and speak clearly and directly and stop stirring the pot. It'll just make you crazier!
2006-11-26 17:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Monica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The silent treatment is just irritating to me and makes me wonder if I really want to stay in the relationship.
I would rather you just told me WHY you are mad at me and WHAT you want me to do about it.
I don't like mind games.
2006-11-26 17:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the guy. my man would go to a strip club every night of the week until i come back to him. some guy really would feel bad and come back. i say try it, for no longer than a few days to a week. if its not working, try something else.
2006-11-26 17:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the silent treatment would be a silly way to "address" a problem. Talk, communicate!
2006-11-26 17:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by heehaw 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It works for me since if I talk at that point, I won't have anything nice to say until I think for a while and cool down.
2006-11-26 17:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋