my boyfriend and i have been together for a year now and things are great. well the problem is i haven't met any of his family. I've met all his friends and we go out and hang out with them all the time. but he never invites me to family functions etc. I'm 18 and hes 21 we started dating 2 months before i turned 18 so i was 17 and he was 20 then. I know his dad didn't like me (sense i was underage), but my bf never made an effort to let me meet him and talk since then, most of the time i don't let it get to me...since everything else about our relationship is perfect. but on sat he was going to a post thanksgiving dinner at his uncle's and his uncle told him to invite me, but my bf didn't even consider me going he just told me and laughed it off ignoring the fact that i said i would like to go. I don't understand why he won't let me meet all or any of his family it seems like hes ashamed of being with me? any ideas what i should do...or if im just over reacting
2006-11-26 17:35:51 · 15 answers · asked by bob123456789 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh btw hes been with me to family weddings and many get togethers etc.
2006-11-26 17:36:29 · update #1
Sounds as though he doesn't want to commit real seriously and that he feels if you met the parents it would be doing so.
2006-11-26 17:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Big Daddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I can well understand your upset about your boy friend's behaviour. It would annoy me, too. Is he otherwise really committed to you and the relationship? May be, he's in fact embarrassed about his own family and doesnt want you to see that or them behaving embarrassingly. My bf behaved similarly, and it was really due to the fact that his folks arent fun and quite critical. He didnt want to lose me, hence the shunning away of me. Did you guys have a good long talk about it? About what his fears and worries are and how he could overcome them. Best is to be supportive of him, but if that doesnt work, may be set him a limit, like: By ..... , I want to meet your family. If you're serious about this relationship, you'll agree that this is reasonable. Best of luck! Gini ;-)
2006-11-27 01:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait one more time. The next function of his family's that he doesn't invite you to, call him out on it. Ask him why he doesn't want you to go. Ask him if he is ashamed of you. If he doesn't have a good excuse insist that he take you this time. If he doesn't want to take you then tell him that he isn't going anywhere and will be spending the day with you. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-11-27 01:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! I'm sorry to say this, but It really does sound like he's ashamed of you. Yet at the same time, he could just be scared that his family might reject you since you mentioned that his father doesn't even like you.
Either way, you should really talk to him about it. If I were you, I'd just ask him straight out, "How come I haven't met any of your family members yet? Its really been bugging me."
2006-11-27 01:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by star_puk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was ashamed of you then you wouldnt know his friends.. and his uncle wouldnt suggest inviting you if his family was ashamed of you. You do know the situation better, but some people dont like their family.. dont like to associate with them, and certainly dont want to be embarrassed by their family. Its whatever you want to make of it though.
Dont assume its you... your bf is the one with the problem.. he is either keeping you from them or them from you. Or them from bothering him...
He will eventually have to introduce you to his family just giveit some time.. whats the rush?
maybe they are crazies.. :D
2006-11-27 01:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not over reacting , when you love someone you want him to be everywhere in your life and you expect the same from him ..
what i think you should do is that you should ask him frankly to introduce you to his family in a proper way , if he refused without a convincing reason i think you should end this relation as obviously he isn't series about it ..
2006-11-27 01:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by m_elnakib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is not you that he is embarrassed of, he is probably embarrassed of his family. Maybe his family is little bit weird, and he is ashamed of it and scared that by meeting them you will start thinking he is weird too.
2006-11-27 01:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you consider that he might be embarrassed of his family?
maybe there not like your family with morals and values.
Instead it could be more like the amityville horror house!
just a thought
2006-11-27 01:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by FLEXizme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it sounds like he is. just sit down with him and tell him how you feel and that you want to meet his family. if he says no then demand an explanation. Good luck!
2006-11-27 01:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is fishy...a whole yr. damn that's a long time to go with out meeting his family...maybe hes got another one or maybe your not the one...but only time will tell...he's probably embarrassed by his family!
2006-11-27 01:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by Raymond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋