i have a big problem. i have been in a long distance relationship for 10 months, and its going great. i love him and couldnt be happier. but however, lately i have been falling for a guy friend that i have gotten closer to. and i find myself liking him more and more. plus i think about how he is here, and my boyfriend can't be. i don't know what to do because i love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him. i think i just like my guy friend because he is here and i can see him and it is convenient for me. i just don't know what to do any more. help, advice, anything would be appreciated. please?!
2006-11-26 17:34:35 · 9 answers · asked by =) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you answered your own question with the "I love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him." Think about whether you really like this other guy or are only lusting after him. Also if it is just for convenience will it last? Think about what you would be giving up with your current boyfriend and if you will gain anything other than less distance with the other guy. Do what your heart tells you is best. Hope you make the right choice.
2006-11-26 17:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by CGS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you gamble anything, I suggest that you try to find out if this guy friend you like, likes you back the same way. If yes, then try find out from your long distance boyfriend if theres any chance you guys can meet at all/or more often. If there's a little chance for that to happen...I suggest that you just be with someone you're with. Your friend. I know the long distance boyfriend is great & its been 10 months but, for a relationship to be "real" you need him there physically. To comfort you, love you & simply be with you. Besides, you may trust this bf but you CAN'T see what he's doing over there as well.
2006-11-27 01:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety, I understand that you r confused, who would'nt be? But I think you already know what you want, or rather "who" you want. He just isn't within touching, snuggling length! You say that your boyfriend means alot to you, and I'm sure he does! So how would he feel if you cheated,,,or dumped him out of "convenience" This other guy, your friend, I'm sure he's a great guy or he would'nt b your friend, so how would u think of him afterwards, knowing that this choice(if u did choose him) was ok with him? That u would just dump him if things get difficult? honey, I just want you to b sure before you do something you might seriously regret!! Is it possible to visit your boyfriend? LOL, if not then the yahoo mes. has this avatar site that might help, lol trying to lighten your heart a bit, anyway I blieve from what you've said that u love this man, so b kind to yourself and look deeply bfore you make a decision this serious! I hope Ive helped at least a little bit, I hate to see people hurting!
2006-11-27 01:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by jenny H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My simple answer to you is simply this: And be honest with yourself.
Is this long distance relationship going to bear fruit anytime soon? Is it "REALISTIC"? How soon do you plan to meet this long distance person, and what will be the means of contact?
This guy friend....is he easy to fall for because he's "there"? Does he feel for you and understand you? Attack and evaluate the situation. Congratulations are in order for your soon to be one year anniversary. Having been with a woman 7 years, I know how, firsthand, being in a relationship really IS. Good luck, but again, assess the situation, find out what the answers are that you seek. Is this long distance thing going to be worth it---
Or is this new guy the one....for you...?
2006-11-27 01:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved you boyfriend "very much" you wouldn't be "falling for" another guy , id say work out what you want and stick too it ..Mr local or Mr long distance.
ps I was in a long distance relationship for 2 yrs (it worked out in the end )
2006-11-27 01:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are very in touch with the origins of you feelings
that is good absence does make the heart go yonder . it is natural what you are going through and if you are really that conflicted maybe spend less time with your male non boyfriend until your feelings get in check .try to spend more time talking on the phone with your loved one to get more emotional intimacy. i hope the long distance situation does not have to continue for too long relationships are difficult enough to begin with . good luck ps your answer to what is love was so funny i had to track u keep that sense of humor it will get u through anything
2006-11-27 01:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by dancfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is very normal and understandable. The right thing to do is let your boyfriend know how you feel. He may be feeling the same way, about being lonely when your not together. He may even make more of an effort to come and see you if he knows how your feeling.
Good Luck
2006-11-27 01:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by cees1019 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships dont work. break it off and remain friends and goout with the man you can be with
2006-11-27 01:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by luis_11211 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ditch the long distance sucka
2006-11-27 01:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by backyardbilbo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋