Would you like a girl even if she was almost 30 pounds over weight?

Question

But she was still considered pretty? It bugs me a lot that I am 5"4 and 150 pounds! :[ I am now being more serious however at eating healthy and excercising... but still... people say I'm pretty (I do get hit on by older foreign guys.. which just kinda bugs me..) but yeah, I wouldn't care if a guy was overweight as long as he cared about his health and was trying well. So ... my question to the guys is if you came across a really nice girl (who some say is pretty sweet) and was sorta pretty and you clicked, how much would you mind the weight thing? I guess I shouldn't really care what others think, I mean I should just be concerned about my own health, it's just hard when you see the guys you like always taken by the really pretty girls who have great healthy bodies and are just as nice as you are. I feel like I'm stuck you know.. until I lose weight, but I wish I knew there were guys out there that didn't care too too much about that.

Answer 1

That is not 30lbs over weight! Seriously people fall in love because of love! Ever heard the saying Love is blind? That's why. Oh and I am very close to your height and weight and I look damn good I could loose a little but hey I'll get to it eventually, I am too busy enjoying my life. I am 5'2 and 147lbs. My doctor 2 weeks ago said that I am at a great weight. Love yourself that is the only ways someone else will love you believe me I had to learn the hard way. So take my advice or take longer believing it. Just keep your head up and remember that that is not that bad!

Answer 2

I'm a lesbian woman and i can say that hell no it wouldnt bother me in the slightest if i was really into a woman and she happened to be 30 lbs overweight. It's what's on the inside that matters most, body shape can be changed with diet and exercise if you really thinks it's absolutely necessary, but having a good personality and being a good person is a whole lot more important than being the weight of a supermodel!

And to put it a different (heterosexual) way, there's a saying that goes...
THE BONE IS FOR THE DOG, THE MEAT IS FOR THE MAN!!

Be a good person. Don't be ashamed of your body, love will find you or you will find it...no matter what you look like.

Answer 3

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder..... And there is somebody for everyone. But reality is reality, and that means that you can't expect everyone to like you just because you are kind, and sweet. There are going to be some real jerks out there who are into the physical apperance and who are going to judge by your weight. But there is good news about this.... you really don't want a guy who is concerned with your weight. How hurt would you be if you lost all this weight and got noticed by so many men and you find the one guy who dates you because of your physical appearance. You finally look like one of those smaller girls. But what do you think will happen to your relationship if you gain a few extra pounds (for whatever reason)? I betcha he will leave you and blame it on your weight.

But if a man accepts you for the way you are right now. If he sees your inner beauty and compliment you now. He is the same guy who will love or care for you whether you gain or lose weight. It is you who he cares about, not your weight or outter appearance.

Please do me a favovr and lose your weight only because you want to lose it but never for a guy. Love yourself as you are and others will follow your lead. Hate yourself as you are and guess what.....

Meat and bones is not for everyone and that is okay, just like Skin and bone is not for everyone. Let your smile be bright, and let your heart be filled with joy. Loving thyself is better than trying to attract any boy!

Answer 4

I am not a guy, nor am I of the lesbian persuasion, but I am a bit more than 30 lbs over weight. And my guy loves me. He met me when I was a bit under weight, and so was he. He is still a thin thing, but after three kids, I am a bit more expanded version of my younger self. So I guess I am not just like you. Nobody really is going to be, we all have are unique experiences.
But I have a daughter who is very short and has always looked overweight and very young. She has a chip on her shoulder about it, which I wish she would get over. She is very intelligent, witty, exuberiant, and gorgeous inside and out. I wish she could look at her self like that, instead of wishing she was taller or had a different dad and stuff.
Your weight isn't a problem with the men. It is a problem with how you think others are seeing you. There are tons of men out there that love women with some meat on them.
The person you need to convince of your worth is yourself. You are a gorgeous person who just needs to believe in herself. Enjoy life, get active in things you believe in, including how you see yourself. Make a list of every positive attribute you claim, then all of your negative attributes. Now look at those negatives and see if they truly are as bad as you seem to think. Change what you reasonably can and accept the rest. No one is looking for perfection.
As far as these beauties snatching up all the good ones, I don't think so. My guy was just sitting around, no dates, no prospectives when I found him 18 years ago. Just because a guy looks good doesn't make him the finest catch.

Looks are great for getting noticed, but after that you need to talk to the guys. Interact with them. Most guys are fairly needy, so they don't really need someone who has to be complimented all the time or requires a great deal of self-esteem boosting. They want you to do that for them. Tell them they are great, take an interest in what they are doing and talk about what interest them ... and you will get their attention every time.
Everyone wants to be the center of the universe, pick out you "sun" and revolve around him and he wil lbe yours forever. At the same time make them revolve around you too. If they want your attention, they should be willing to give you some of theirs. No need to be a doormat.
Your weight will start getting under control with your increased activity and interest in yourself. So schedule a manicure or hair styling or whatever boosts your esteem and makes you feel good. Try new make-up, different clothes ... don't just worry avbout losing weight, lose the chip on your shoulder too.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

im with you on this one..ive always been more than 30 lbs over weight, and its been hard too..a lot of guys, even the real cute ones like girls with meat on their bones..dont worry about your size..you sound healthy..if these guys you like dont take a second glance at you just because your not a size 0, then they arent worth it..you will meet the perfect guy who will love you for who you are on the inside, not the outside..hope this makes some sense to you..

Answer 6

Be happy of who you are.You need to be happy before anything.If the guy likes you he is taking you for who you are not of what others think.After all when you do lose the weight imagine of how the other guys will respect him & you.After all he saw for what was in the inside & not the outside.After all that could be changed at any second.Good luck!

Answer 7

Execise greater in many circumstances like decide for a run prevalent after dinner or walk to college (in case you reside close adequate), ect...... consume fit as a substitute of coming abode and snackin on junk nutrients like i do lol make your self a fruit salad, or have a yogurt, some culmination and vegetables, ect... solid success!!!

Answer 8

There are guys out there who dont care about that.Sounds to me like your the one that needs to get over it.5'4150ibs not that overweight.If your not happy with yourself than yeah do a little something about it but do it the right way.No fasting,No starving.You know what I mean?Exercise.Pilates is the best!

Answer 9

if u keep yourself up most guys will c through the weight, depending on if it's unporpotioned or not. keep urself up jus like skinny gurls and a guy is gonna c ur beauty shine through.

Answer 10

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.