There's a guy I like ,I'm in my mid twenties and he's 4 yrs older than me and we been seeing each other for a few months. He wants to have sex but I want to wait. I really like him alot, I care about him so much. I like spending time with him and I find myself thinking of little things I could do to make him happy. I want us to get to know each other better. I also want to be sure that he feels the same way I do. That its not just sex he wants. He likes me too, what should I do to keep him interested?Should we stop getting physical? Its hard for me to stop sometimes, so I know its even harder for him. We have such great chemistry physically, but I want to take time and build something more solid. I think I could fall in love with him, should I tell him? To the guys, is it possible for an experienced guy to date a virgin or will he leave when he doesnt get what he wants? Is there a chance for us?
2006-11-26 16:52:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he feels the same he should understand. I am about ur age, 24, and had been around the block in my past. I have been single now for a while since my ex and have been very good and feel the same way you do. Sex does not define ur relationship. If you grow old with that person, sex is gone, and friendship is all that remains. Relationship is spelled W-O-R-K. not s-e-x. He needs to be respect it. If he cant, send him on his way before he finds it somewhere else and u give it to him to try to win him back
2006-11-26 16:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by James C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you guys must go and sit down and talk about it , tell him how you feel , and ask him how he feels about it , if he just interested in sex then he might not be the one for you and its time to move on and look for a guy that will see things your way , or if you feel you don't want to lose him , it might be the time to take the big step ... but only if you feel its worth it , don't do things you might regret later in life , take it from a fool , its not worth it .. hope you get to sort it out , its not going to be easy ... good luck .. and keep well ..
2006-11-26 17:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to him to build him up and leave him cold, so I think you should cool things down if your not ready to have sex yet and don't rush yourself just to keep him. If he really cares for you he won't mind waiting. There's a lot more to a relationship than sex and if he doesn't know this he might not be worth your time.
2006-11-26 16:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to know if he loves you is to make him wait. You dont have to try so hard to keep a guy. you shudnt work for it. if its true love if u make him wait he is gonna wait. If he leaves coz you are not giving it to him then you will have your ans. He just wants your body.
Do it when you are ready for it dont be pleasurized. All the best.
2006-11-26 17:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Essie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW !!....You are treading in dangerous territory Lady. I like what you say and your convictions are great ! Please don't abandon them for short term pleasure. IF your guy IS serious and wants a GREAT relationship with you over the long term he will respect you and wait. If you guys can do that.....you will have a relationship that they write songs and do movies about. I am envious ! God Bless You.
2006-11-26 17:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing NOT to do is sell-out.
Don't compromise. If you want to wait and see what he'll do, that's a good sign.
Be true to you first.
2006-11-26 16:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by asshat.mcpoop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well talk to him about it and if he leaves you because you dont want to get "physical" with him then apparently he really didnt care for anything but to get in your pants. Be honest with him tell him you want to grow a stronger relationship other than being physical with one another. and if he cant respect your boundaries he cant respect you.
2006-11-26 16:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by ~*mwah*~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey sis...WAIT ok...he is a male...trust me i know these things.....longer you wait the better....but if you love him, let him goooooooo..ok...it hurst but do it...........if he loves you he will be back trust me ok..please trust me....dont fall for it...and when he does come back to you, wich i know he will...have him get a test, to make sure he is clean..ok..please........you first time should be the best, not with him, not yet...ok...take your time..p.ease
2006-11-26 17:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by jdog44442003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well damn...I was gonna say get freaky in the bed room..but scratch that off. I have no clue now.
2006-11-26 17:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin's Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you,he'll wait.
2006-11-26 16:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋