Why do I want to "spoil" my child???

Question

I love it and I can afford it! My kid doesnt act like a brat by any means and is very huggy and loving, he is 2 years old. He even vacuums and puts his clothes away on hangers! I just love giving him things, I was not spoiled as child either. Are there any other moms like me??? My kid has a dvd player and plasma tv in his room...is that really a bad thing??? He only watches about 1 hour a week of it.

dont judge, i dont.

Answer 1

Spoiling your child as a CHILD, isn't bad as long as there is responsibility behind it. Vacuuming and cleaning their room is responsibility and shows them that for their hard work, they get rewards.

Answer 2

I sometimes want to spoil my kids, a new toy here and there. My son is very careful with his toys and last week he helped extra every day so I got him a couple new toys, I spent about 25 bucks and got some stuff that went along with the toys he already plays with to avoid him getting overwhelmed. He is nearly 4 (in April). I love playing with him too, I think he likes that more then he would some more toys. I don't want to act like I am replacing time well spent with him by just buying stuff instead. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. Just give everything a second thought. I almost bought him some more today because I got my tax refund, but his birthday and Easter are coming up soon.

Answer 3

Well - I am now 21 years old and I was an only child with older parents. And I can say that I 'got everything I wanted'. I think I avoided becoming 'spoiled' per say because my mom always warned me that the second I turned in to a brat or became ungrateful it would stop so fast that I wouldn't know what hit me! And I knew she wasn't lying! So I was always very thankful for everything I got. The downside - I was used to getting everything I wanted. So now - if I want something it is hard to accept that I can not have it -- but I can also see it as a positive thing - I become very determined to get what I want and work very hard for it...I was raised with my manners - always was very polite to everyone and knew that I was very lucky. On the other hand I watch 2 girls that are very 'spoiled' they get everything they want - but they are VERY mean, rude and think the world owes everything to them - they won't even clean up after themselves or carry their own things....therefore I think it all depends how you raise the child - they can live very comfortably - but also show them the meaning of having to work hard for what you want in life, show them others that are not as lucky so he will appreciate what he has. And most importantly that material items and money do not equal happiness in life….

Good luck

Hope that helps!

Answer 4

I can afford to buy my children anything they want, anything. But common sense says not to. Not that you're a bad parent for buying things. It's even nice to splurge on big ticket items from time to time. But even if the child is grateful now, one day he might come to expect things, and that takes all the fun out of it. Or he might become a brat and expect stuff all the time. Or, God forbid, there might be a day when you *can't* afford things. If he grows up equating material possessions with your love and then you can't buy him stuff, he'll think you don't love him.
And I promise you, a 2 year old would much prefer getting "spoiled" by having a picnic or trip to the zoo with mommy then a plasma tv or $500 toy.

Answer 5

I say keep doing what you're doing and I'll check back with you in about 15 years LOL. My best friend did the same thing you are doing! I've known her since before she was pregnant with what could have been an incredible young man. Thanks to her "spoiling" as an adult he's a materialistic, pathetic, loser. He had a room full of material items like your son does by age 5. I was 16 and didn't have half the stuff he had. This continued all his life. He started out helpful and organized, thankful and sweet towards his mother and the world but the years of being "spoiled" showed why they call it by that word. He became ungrateful to his mother, his spoiler as it were. At 16 he wanted a new BMW but all she could afford was a brand new fully loaded $23,000 Honda. He became enraged and beat her. He knocked out one of her teeth. Another time he choked her b/c she got him the "wrong" watch for his 17th birthday. She got him a Movado (a $700 WATCH!) but he wanted a Gucci. The most awful thing he did was when he was 21 and he has met some girl and he wanted his mom to pay for him to take her to Paris and she said no. She had taken ill and was on oxygen and put on bed-rest at home. He cut her oxygen tube and left her to die as he got her credit cards and took his girl to France for a 2 weeks on Mommy's Am-Ex. He's 22 now and still has never had a job and only did 3 months of college. He's just a shallow, materialistic tyrant that my friend lives in her own home afraid of but still tries to "spoil". Looks like you and she will have a lot in common in about 20 years huh? Two "spoiled" loser sons who only know material love and will beat and even kill you to keep the goodies coming. Only staying around you waiting for you croak so they can have the only love they know--financial. Thanks for your contribution to the world. Ugh.

Answer 6

lol whatever floats your boat, but IMO, a plasma TV in a 2 years old room is a lil much. Like some of these people say, what are you going to do in a situation where you cant afford such things. I know I teach my children that material things are not always good and the best thing I can give my children is love.

Answer 7

O.k Now if u can afford it then its very good but u shouldnt spoil a child very much because when he gets older one day u r going to say no and he might get mad because u spoil him as much when he was a kid.No it is not bad that u have a dvd player and a big screen televison because children need entertainment but however i just wanted to let u no how i feel and u have a nice day

Answer 8

Yes it fine now but what happens when he gets older and starts being " a brat"? What then? It's OK to spoil your child but you just need to be careful as he get older cause that's when the "brat" comes in and it's easy to fix before it get started, so if you spoil him but yet he has discipline in his life too to where he know he can't get by with stuff then by all means if you can spoil him do it you just don't want him to turn in to a "spoiled brat" then thats not good.

Answer 9

Spoiling with material things isn't a great idea. Neither is the tv/dvd in the bedroom. If you want to shower him with gifts, buy him creative, educational toys and books. Give him tons of art supplies and science activities. Good job teaching responsibility, but I would go easy on the gifts. Children who are showered with gifts tend to expect them later (I'm married to one of those).

Answer 10

We spoil our children too, people just get jelous! We have spent about $1,000 on each of them for Christams so far & prob. spend more. But they too are not brats and we make them go through their toys & donate alot that no longer show intrest in to the battered womens & childrens home.