What do I do about my fiance who thinks he's 'the pillar of logic' and can never be wrong?

Question

My fiancé and I have been together for almost two years now, and though I love him, his temper I loathe. He really crossed the other line the other night when him and I had a disagreement while with a family
After a few attempts to end the argument he a) kept arguing about it after I made attempts for peace, and making me cry in public b) LIED to me about going to the bathroom and took off ‘running away’ into the dead of night to god knows where, c) had the audacity to tell my 3 yr. nephew that all women are crazy and men are better, d) sent me into a frenzy searching for him around the entire area of Mission Valley, e) him not having the courteousy to contact me (even via text) at some point to let me know he got home okay, e) posted a blog the bext day concentrating on the argument and why he is ‘right’, having no remorse for his ditching me, f) once again implied in blog that I am ‘inferior’ in some sense due to being a woman.

I am so, so angry/sad. What move do I make next?

Answer 1

Sorry, but the writing is on the wall if you pause to read it: Abandon ship. Better to accept you've made a mistake now, then try to ignore the rather obvious flaws in your relationship with your guy and get married, only to get a divorce later on.

While I am mindful of the fact that only your side of the dispute has been presented here, your boyfriend embarrassing you publicly by ditching you at some sort of gathering, and apparently being un-repentant for that immature display is double trouble.

The immediate next move is an ultimatum - either treat you with respect, even when you are in disagreement (it is possible to do), or don't let the door slap him in the butt on the way out for the last time.

Stand up for yourself. NEVER, and that means NOT EVER do you allow ANYONE on the face of the earth to demean you. And even worse, to do so publicly. That is a cardinal sin in a relationship, and if you can't come to terms with your guy on that issue, you will save yourself much greater grief down the road by dumping the little boy now.

Good luck.

Oh, and, if you dump him, keep the rock.......

Answer 2

Men are big babies sometimes, and throw fits and as women, throughout the centuries, we've ALWAYS been superior. Superior because we can bring life into the world or not. We say yes or no when a man asks us to marry him, so we call the shots there too. BUT the most powerful thing you have is cutting his a** off from sex, oh and he can't force you, because we have laws that protect us there too. So the next time he starts that "superiority" crap, just let him, we women don't have anything to prove, but hopefully he's smart enough to realize that he needs to cut the crap when its a little frosty on his side of the bed.
Seriously though, don't have a disagreement with him, its not worth it just for the sake of who's right and who's wrong. Pick and choose your battles. That type of battle is seriously solved in the bedroom with your husband/fiance. Trust me.

Answer 3

be as radical as he thinks you are, i guess. you should just cut him off until he's ready to apologize. if he doesn't get over himself then he'll be losing the best thing that probably happened to him - you. and if he doesn't apologize you don't really want to be with an ****** the rest of your life, do you?

although i don't know the complete story, from both sides, it sounds like both of you were acting irrational at some point. he did a lot of things that are obviously wrong as far as just the arguing goes and if you plan to stay together, you may need some marriage counseling. otherwise, ditch him. you could always do better!!!

good luck, darlin'.

Answer 4

The move you make next is to break off your engagement. This guy has some serious anger management issues. Marrying him is not going to make it better. It is your business, but why are you in love with somebody who lies, has to be right, doesn't communicate with you, and claims men are better? Find a better man that will treat you like the GODDESS that you are!

Answer 5

Darling the writ ting is on the Blog. It's over and you are planning on marrying a man who does not respect you. HINT, hint, marriage is easy divorce is expensive. You may feel pain, but from the sounds of it, your pain now is a lot less then the future pain he may inflict on you. God is sending you clear signs.

He clearly does not respet you or your family. Bad news girl friend. Don't be in denial.

Answer 6

your bf is a crazy man.

i would love a gal who cares abt others.

lets assume, u were wrong. then also a good guy would have understood and let u win. thats what i would have done to gal i loved. if u care abt somebody, u dont argue on silly things.

its ok to accept that one is wrong sometimes. his attitude isnt good at all. i m not saying dump him but talk to him let him know what u feel abt him.

Answer 7

Ignore him whenever his in an argumental mood and think that what he says is right and you wrong. Just act as if you couldn't care less if he is, i have a sister who's kinda the same and she wont stop till she proves to me she right and if i do this it really annoys her

Answer 8

This is an immature guy. He will always expect you to be submissive, and will always treat you like you are stupid! He feels that he is your better.

Are you sure you want to marry a child? One that thinks you are stupid? And will NEVER have any respect for you or your family?

Answer 9

You both sound too young to get married. These things do not improve with marriage.

Answer 10

You might want to reconsider keeping a relationship with this person, it might not be a good thing.