She lied that she didn't have hw,and she got a very bad grade,since it was a big project.How is acceptable to react,besides taking privileges away? Can u help ? She lied because she wanted to watch a tv show.
2006-11-26 16:29:29 · 14 answers · asked by lady F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
tell her she can do something....like watch a TV show then when the time comes say she can't.
when she asks why not.....tell her you lied....give her a minute to process this and then remind her this is how others feel when she lies to them. how she feels right then and now, and that is why you don't lie to others...so you won't make them feel like she feels right then.
2006-11-26 16:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree with twinkies.
I lied about hw alot as a kid, but my parents never were involved in my education, and I think if they had been more adamant about my school work, I would have done much better.
I would be on top of the whole thing for as long as it takes.
It is going to be hard work, but you'll have to talk to her teachers (not just the one, but all of them) and get daily assignments from them either over the phone or personally.
See if the school has a webpage where they post assignments. If not, talk to the principal about getting one. Most schools nowadays have this, and it is an excellent resource for parents! If your child leaves a book at school, see how early you can get there for her to get it and finish the assignment before class starts.
The only sure way to know how well a child is doing in school is to be friends with the teachers and other school staff.
You may think you are busy with work and other things but if you prioritize your family above work, then this is a serious issue that needs to take precedence over your work. So make time for it.
Also, if she is lying about school, it is only a matter of time before she starts lying about other things. The only way to know the truth is to be there. That is not to say be a tyrant, but be a buddy without crossing the line out of parenthood. Being a tyrant will only breed contempt and more lies.
I know all of this from experience.......on both ends.
Good luck to you!
2006-11-26 16:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to teach her that it is more trouble to be deceptive than to tell the truth. I'd set up a specificed punishment such as no TV for two weeks, or take away something else she likes. Then have her have to do something to earn it back at the end of the period. Whatever you do DO NOT go back on your word about the punishment. Make it last the amount of time you said. Make sure she does what you specify to earn the privilege back.
Also what killed me as a kid was the disappointment of my parents in me. Just act sad and say "I am so disappointed in you about this". It should hopefully work well. Also and just as important: be very proud and verbally praise her when she does do school work and gets good grades. Even set up a system of rewards. this should work well.
Take her behavior in this very seriously. if it isn't dealt with properly you will see it happen over and over.
2006-11-26 16:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had the same problem. We took away the tv. We explained to her that now is the time to pay attention. That when she gets older and starts to hangout with friends, she will not feel good if she is the dummest amongst them. She has only one responsibility to go to school and to learn. She does not have to work on the fields, like millions of children.We told her that there are children out there how would give away a finger to have a book to read.
Tell her that you dont lie to her. Ask her how she would feel if you promised her something and then did not get it.
And you have to talk to the teacher with her present.
Say that unfortunatly you can not trust your daughter at the moment the teacher has to contact you rightaway if the child does not do home work.
When your child says ... I am going to ... house you always to to have say: is this true are you sure, are you lying again. Soon she will say I am not lying, you can then say how can I be sure, you lied to us about something small - your home work. So you have to understand my mistrust. But maybe one day I can trust you again.
Hope it helps.
2006-11-27 04:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if this is the first lie i wouldnt be too tough on her but i would make her do her home work as soon as she comes in from school and sence she lied about it to watch tv id say no tv untill all home work is completed and im my hand to check. and make your point clear that not only did she not do her work but she lied about it also witch makes 2 no nos not just one and next time there will be not tv at all and you will make her go to bed an hr earlier than usual bed time. it works for 7 yr old, when he tells a fib im not a spanker so you may think im a lil soft but it works for me and lol he hates going to bed early any ways and usually when not in trouble he watches cartoons untill bed time so for him its extreme punishment
2006-11-26 16:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not decrease back off and do not enable your husband both. If that has been between the themes then talk punishments earlier you provide them out. then you definitely can continually say you agreed to... Screaming and yelling want do something yet boost the habit. do not enable her comprehend she's getting to you and proceed to punish to boot as praise for each of the little stuff sturdy and undesirable. The spanking gained't do something. i do not floor to a room. I have got here upon without stimulus my little ones ought to seek for me out to ascertain or play a board sport or something alongside those traces. throughout that element various of speaking and bonding can take position. sturdy success.
2016-11-27 00:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by layman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have a long hard,heart to heart discussion with her and tell her lying is wrong and people cant trust liars and she wont be able to be trusted because she could turn into a pathological liar. and if she doesnt listens and still lies then teach her a lesson in lying take her toys,tv,candy,dessert, friend,privileges away until she learns not to lie and learns lying is wrong.
2006-11-26 16:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so take the tv away. My 6 year old lied to me about homework one time and now he only has tv and games on saturday. never did it again.
2006-11-26 16:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by ANDREA K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
disciplining your child depends on her surroundings. Older people must learn to prove to her that "WHAT YOU SAY AND DO IS THE TRUTH". meaning let your YES BE "YES" AND YOUR NO BE "NO". No ifs and no But's. This Will create an impact to her that you rally mean business. Don't give in to her TANTRUMS or else she will always use this as he defense mechanism.
2006-11-26 18:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by d pogi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with both nuno and the mufu i had the same problem with my son but his was playing games did that to him and havn't had any problem since. i have also spanked him on occasion, the way i look at it is if busting my butt taught me the difference of right and wrong when i was little i kept me from doing wrong as i got older
2006-11-26 16:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Eric D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ban the television and if you believe that it is a reoccuring issue then you can ask her to bring home a note from her teacher everyday showing what her homework will be. One of my friends mom's did that to him in highschool and it worked wonders on him.
2006-11-26 16:32:44 · answer #11 · answered by paganmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋