my girlfriend has really been in a tough spot, her mother passed away on thanksgiving, she was 51. My gf is only 20 and she doesnt have any family to go to for this. I am her only outlet. I am doing my best being htere for her, trying to make her laugh, giving her a shoulder to cry on. But there are times when i see her just stare into nothingness, and there is nothing i can say. I feel so helpless... will things ever be the same again?
2006-11-26 16:25:19 · 8 answers · asked by xsuckitdx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Jesus christ its been 3 days. It was her MOTHER. and your worried about it being the same after 3 days? I hope she has a better friend than you.
2006-11-26 16:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh.. and on thanksgiving.. well i know how she feels, and my mum was in the same position as her a year or so ago. u guys must be really serious if ur, like she says, her only outlet. theres really nothing u can do but be there for her like u already have. things will go back to normal, but itll take time. she's feeling really lost right now and needs everyone she can get to help her now. are u guys religious? cause if u are, itll help to tell her that her mother is now in a better place.. with her other relatives who have passed away too perhaps? tell her that her mother wouldnt want her to be upset but would like her to be strong and move on. tell her her mother is looking down on her and what a wonderful person she is. itll help her feel better for sure. things will definately go back to normal but u just gta stick in there. it may go on for a couple weeks or even months, but she will move on. be there for her. i wish u 2 the best of luck and hope she finds the peace and comfort that she really needs in ur arms. goodluck :)
2006-11-27 01:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Meme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say it will be the same again. I lost my dad suddenly two years ago and I was like that for a long time. Your girlfriend is very young to be going through this and she is traumatized by this. Just hang in there, be there for her, and things will get back to normal eventually. She needs time to heal, to grieve, to be an emotional wreck....she needs to be these things for the grief to go full circle. There is no set time limit that it takes, everyone is different. You are doing all you can do....dont stop.
2006-11-27 00:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by babyj248 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they will. But your girlfriend seems to be traumatized by her mother's death. The most important thing for you to do is to be patient with her...and don't try to fill the empty spaces with jokes. She may not be up for that sort of thing. And take care of yourself. Get together with friends, so you keep living. And ask her if she wants to come along. If things get really bad, then I would suggest getting counseling.
2006-11-27 00:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs grief counseling. It is hard to lose a young mother like that. She will get over it eventually but it will take time and loving patience. You sound like a good guy.
2006-11-27 00:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Over time girl, just be patient, kind, understanding, like u have been! Please tell her to go see someone lioke a shrink to talk out her probs to a pro. This could bug her 4ever and u cannot be there 4ever.
2006-11-27 00:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, the dead are easily forgotten. Give he a year or 2 and things will clear up for her.
If not, she needs psychiatric help for prolonged depression.
2006-11-27 00:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Xanana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey is your name jc?
if not than yes just give her time.
2006-11-27 00:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by sumer h 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋