to cheat or not to cheat?

Question

guys! would you cheat on your girl even if you loved her? why or why not? is it true that a guys would agree to sleep with any girl or you have to be attracted to her?

Answer 1

am not a man but have seen the ugly side of them, sadly they would cheat even if they loved the one they were with . and am sure some would sleep with woman they are not attracted to, after all not all prostitutes are attractive but still get business.

Answer 2

Absolutely not, if you have committed yourself to a relationship then you should not cheat. If you are considering cheating then you don't really love the person you're with, so my advice is to break up so that you eliminate any possibility of hurting that person by cheating.

Answer 3

Guys are more easilly cohersed to sex. Most aren't cheaters, and any that is isn't worth being with.

Answer 4

NEVER CHEAT!!!

Answer 5

no, what crowd are you hanging around with.

Answer 6

I'm about to share something with you that I want you to NEVER, EVER forget. It's the reality about how most men work when dating.

A man will NEVER see your "worth" just because he's having sex with you. It sucks, but that's the way men act sometimes. So let me be very clear here:

Just because a man has sex with a woman, it doesn't mean that he's spent even a second of his time deciding whether or not he wants to be with her in the future. Because even though you've already moved on to how you're going to settle down together, he hasn't even decided if he wants to try anything "serious" out with you. Sure, it would be great if a man let you know this before he slept with you, but that's not reality most of the time. Wonen also paly a part in this and are not entirely innocent. Were you up-front and honest about what you were looking for? Or did your true feelings sneak up on you, freak you out, and then freak him out too?

GIVING AWAY YOUR "SELF" TO A MAN

I've got an important question for you..., Who made this guy the final judge of your "worth" as a woman?

The answer...The woman do it. I'm going to get a bit "deep" and "spiritual" here, its all in the name of tough love. women seek a mans approval in the worst kind of way. You're waiting and wanting HIM to show YOU that you deserve the experience of open and unrestrained love. You're counting on him to be the strong and masculine lover you've always wanted, who will break through the barriers in both of your hearts. That way you can SURRENDER to the deep kind of love that you truly desire from a man.

Unfortunately, that's not what's happening or how a man FEELS with a woman right now. But deep down, you believe that if you can come up with enough "proof" that he should love and value you, and if you can make things "perfect" between the two, then he'll become the open and loving man you imagine him to be.

It's time. It's time for the little girl who's seeking a man's approval in order to experience love to grow up. It's time for you to stop hoping that a man will become the man you want him to be, when he shows you that he doesn't even have a clue about what love is or how to be with a woman. But you're so wrapped up in his perspective, what he's doing, his feelings, his emotions and his desires (or lack thereof) that you've all but forgotten about something WAY MORE IMPORTANT.

What YOU really want. I'll take a wild guess here and bet that the kind of guy that you truly want isn't the kind of guy who would act how this guy is acting. As in, the kind of guy who would sleep with a woman and then act distant and irritated with her just because she wants to talk about how she's feeling. So, sorry for asking but... What the hell are you doing!? You're wasting your energy trying to get the love and approval of someone who acts like a person you don't even want to be with!?

LOVE, SEX AND THE MIND OF THE "MASCULINE MAN"
You need a lesson on who a man really is. There are FASCINATING biological reasons for why men act the way they do. But the reasons that are the most important for you to understand right now aren't the "scientific" ones. I'm going to get a tiny bit "out there" right now, but stick with me...There's a big difference between what I'll call the "masculine" energy and the "feminine" love or energy.

The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this
way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man.

The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "emptiness" and "freedom". Have you ever heard a man talk about how he wanted his "freedom"... and you wondered what the hell he was talking about? And you could tell that he didn't even really know what he meant by his "freedom". This "freedom" or emptiness is actually the masculine means of surrender and fulfillment. Just as the feminine means is connection and loving. Ever noticed that lots of men fall right to sleep or act like they're off somewhere else after sex? There are tons of pop-culture references to men doing this in TV, movies, books, etc. People know that men often behave this way. It's "conventional wisdom". But most people don't really know WHY men act this way.

Have you ever thought about why so many men have a strong addiction to watching sports events. Well, each game is setup in a specific way that draws a man's emotions into the experience. At the center of each game is a person or a team that rises up to overcome. It's a kind of trial where a man will break through hardship, competition and challenge. And when a team or player scores a goal celebrates, something fascinating takes place.

The man "breaks through" the challenge into "freedom" and the final emptiness of victory. Then the men will celebrate as though their greatest desires have been fulfilled and cry out as they never have before.

How does this relate to dating, sex and love?
With sex, a man doesn't "surrender" to love and connection the way a woman does..unless he learns to. And yes, a man can and should learn how to surrender himself with his woman to love. But instead, men often seek the physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary "freedom" and emptiness.

Notice that in physical experiences with women, or in life for that matter, most men don't have the same strong drive to be deeply and unwaveringly CONNECTED to the people around them like most healthy women do. Often times, they're driven by some thing that has nothing to do with love, intimacy and connection.

If they have a woman who gets it, she can lead and challenge him into finding freedom through love and connected experience, not through empty physical experience and isolation.

A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued, if... you're doing things just to seek and win his love and APPROVAL. Yes, you might have "goofed" by being physical with him too early.

The real problem now is something entirely different. Sleeping or being physical with a man is NOT a bad thing. But you've got to create the right feelings within him before and during the experience of being together for it to truly bring you closer in love. Sorry, but just being there isn't going to do it and reach a man's heart.

Here's what to do first - Stop wanting the fact that you've had sex to magically win him over into being an open and loving partner like you are. Ever thought about what a man really wants in a woman to date or fall in love with? I'm talking about mature, healthy men here " They want someone that they WANT"

They want to WANT a woman, to worship her, to please her, to ravish her, and to sweep her off her feet with their physical and emotional presence. And for the woman to be utterly and completely taken with them and what they do. I'm sure you've seen or heard this kind of male fairy tale before. So why don't men just act this way with women if this is what they want? Because most women don't create the experience that will make a man FEEL this way. There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge. I know it sounds cliché, but it's true.

Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman. And then they want to win the woman over
and feel stronger as a man for having done it.

Men deal with this in one of two ways:

1. They find more "freedom" and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term

2. They find connection and love by physically AND emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and "longer-term" way

A woman helps him choose which it will be with her. The point is, men LOVE the chase. Some men might tell you that they don't. They do. Men love the chase and the challenge not in their "logical" minds, but down where it counts. They love it in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. It's part of their genetic make-up.

But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens.

The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her. He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him. Which destroys the strongest "lead-in" to creating lasting love with a man.

It's just one simple word “ATTRACTION” - Men want to feel ATTRACTION and they don't want to listen to what a woman tells them is going on and then come to accept and understand how and why they should be in love.No. That's not how men work. Instead, they want to FEEL their desire for a woman inside their whole body, emotionally driving them, and for it to be undeniable and unrelenting.

If you don't make a man FEEL ATTRACTION for you and trigger the emotional desire deep inside him to win you over and be with you for the long term, then there's no amount of talking, sharing,
or SEX that can change his mind. Experiences and situations that will make a man respond to a woman with INTENSE DESIRE and ATTRACTION. And not just in the "empty" physical sense, but instead with more deeply connected feelings.

What's the difference between women who can't seem to find a relationship with a man and make it work versus women in great relationships who experience love and joy almost everyday?

Is it just "dumb luck" that the right guy finally comes along for the latter group? Lots of women hold an UNCONSCIOUS BELIEF about men, relationships and love. And, this belief actually makes their love lives more difficult, more painful and more frustrating. It's completely COUNTERPRODUCTIVE.

And lastly remember:
1. Dont choose men who don't have a good track record with past relationships, aren't reliable, trusting, communicative or honest regarding issues large and small?

2. Dont choose men who don't like or respect women? Here's a clue: If when referring to females a man uses the c-word (and it's not "commitment"), To refine your philosophy, it's not necessarily true that most men cheat, but that most men of a certain type (the worm variety) cheat.

The moral: Be discerning about someone's character before you have sex with him or fall too deeply in love to have any judgment capabilities at all.

I do hope I have answered your question>r