okae there is this girl who i really like but she goes to a different school, but i have know her since the 8th grade, i just dont know how to tell her because i still wanna be friends with her....
2006-11-26 15:52:02 · 12 answers · asked by Ray Ray 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How about the direct approach?
Tell her just what you said here. You need to make the first move, cause she can't read your mind. Could be she'd be really glad you did.
Good luck!
2006-11-26 15:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Gnome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get older, you will realize, back "then" was all just fun.
Just go for it. If you ruin the friendship, don't worry about it, girl/guy friendships never last long after high school, cuz once one of the friends settle down, the gf/bf doesnt want them hanging out with their opposite sex friends.
So just tell her how you feel, maybe give her a rose or something. Even if you embarass yourself somehow, down the road you will just see it as a learning experience.
I just feel bad for the stuff you'll have to deal with in 10 years lol
2006-11-26 15:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by roxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-mail or, better yet, write her a letter and tell her. Writing a letter will force you (hopefully) to clearly state your feelings for her. Also it's somewhat of a compliment nowadays becuase you took the time to write rather than rapping out something via a text message.
Depending on your ages (high school, college), offering to be friends with her may be really appreciated because you can provide an independent opinion on things due to your distance. You aren't as likely to be affected by the peer pressure at her school and can give her advice when she's stressed.
2006-11-26 15:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by eriurana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to be friends and lovers with her. And you can have it this way. I strongly believe that all relationships should have a strong friendship foundation. When you're friends before you are lovers, you are likely to really know this person better than someone being lovers first and later trying to become friends with them.
As a friend - you should be able to talk to her. (she's your friend)
As a friend - She will be honest with you about her feelings
As a friend - The two of you will always be able to work out your differences whenever a problem come up (including if she does not approve of you wanting to be more)
If the two of you try out as being bf and gf, and if it does not work out. You should be able to return to your original state of being just friends without any hard feelings.
2006-11-26 16:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite the bullet my friend. Tell her and deal with the outcome. If she does not feel the same way, she will tell you something along the lines of "I see you as only my friend, a good friend, etc." which when you think about it means you have zero risk... Go fo it!
2006-11-26 15:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by hinduhammer8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her that u like her and then say if u don't like me as more than a friend then i still wanna be friends
2006-11-26 15:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem. If you like the girl, go to her and say that you lke her. Ifshe likes you, she will be your friend otherwise she will not respond to your request . Good Luck.
2006-11-26 15:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to open up and be frank with someone who you love.
You need to express ur feelings openly.
2006-11-26 16:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you like her. And if she doesnt go for it just be friends.
2006-11-26 15:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't tell her you're going to be just like you are now....wondering.
2006-11-26 15:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋