My bestfriend has known i'm bulimic for a long time. But she decided to tell the school. She went to a counsler and told them about it. Now they are trying to get all involved. I dadn't ever tell my parents but they did. And now they trying to get my parents to put me in a recovery center. But i don't want to go to a recovery center!! I don't think that would help me. The counslers suck too. they all talk about my "emotional pains" and how i'm depressed and stuff. What can i do!?!? I'm scared that they won't help me but make everything worse!! Are they going to make it worse or are they really trying to help me!?! i'm SO confused
2006-11-26 15:49:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi.
I may not be able to help because I have never been bulimic or known anyone to be bulimic but I am a parent of two and know about counselors. I think that your friend just showed you lots of love. It may not look like it now but your friend loves you for telling. I have dealt with counselors in the past and some on them really don't know what they are talking about. They read a book, study it but have never been through it. Make sure that what ever counselor you go to has helped others with the same problem. I am going to send you information about bulimic and what it does to your body.
2006-11-26 16:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Staci R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must b really tough having every1 find out all @ once!
im 18 and have been bulimic for 2 yrs. i told my closest family and friends over time. i've gone to a counsler and it didn't work because she didnt even know anything about bulimia. if the counseling isn't working try an outpatient program. the longer ur bulimc the harder it is to stop. i tell myself that i dont want to stop because "i wanna b skinny" but i know that i really do want 2 stop. i hate the whole lifestyle. i'm tired of planning my day around when im gonna binge/purge and spend hours puking in the bathroom. I dunno if ur starting 2 c any of the side effects of bulimia but after 2 years i don't have my period anymore, i have 10 cavaties which had 2 be filled (w/out anesthesia), i'm always cold, and my doctor said i have low potassium and chloride. so even though i'm still dealing w/this i think u should try the whole outpatient thing. ur lucky u have ppl who care. my mother only worries about the fact that she's wasting money on food. when i told her i was bulimic the first thing that came out of her mouth was " so i've been wasting money on food that ur throwing ^?" they really r trying 2 help u, jus tell them that u wanna try the outpatient thing first and that if it doesn't help try the recovery center. the best thing that could happen is that u'd b free from this disgusting disease. what's the worst thing that would happen?
2006-11-27 00:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by una ragazza siciliana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the recovery center a fair chance. If you're not willing to change, then you're right it probably won't help. Don't expect the counselors to change you. You have to take that responsibility yourself. But I assure you there are better ways at having control over yourself and your body than through purging. If nothing else, the center may offer you some new positive techniques and coping skills to replace the habit that you've developed.
2006-11-27 11:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by m3pinklemonade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can promise you that the only reason these people are giving you any sort of drama over this is because they really do care for you. A recovery center had people there who are trained to know what you're going through and how to help you. Regardless of if you're depressed or not, it's not okay for you to binge and purge. I went through an 8 month stint with it, and I battled it out myself. If I could have had one person try to help me, I'd have been grateful. It doesn't make you skinnier, it definitely doesn't make you happier.
Just give these people a chance. They ARE trying to help you. Just let them take care of you.
God bless, and I hope you get through this.
2006-11-26 23:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...thats sounds sooooo familiar. it was exactly the same with me but mine was with cutting not bulimia.
explain to your mum that you don't want to go to a recovery center and that it wont help you. hopefully she'll understand. if not maybe you can make a deal with her: you'll go to the counselor and sort yourself out as long as she doesn't put you in the recovery center.
really the counselors are trying to help you. at the moment it might feel like they're making it worse but really they're trying to make it better. keep on going for a bit with these counselors and see what happens. if you're really not happy with these counselors after a while see if you find someone else...maybe your mum could find you an out of school one.
hope i was of some help. email me if you want to speak.
good luck. xx
2006-11-27 02:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by xxx_devil_from_hell_xxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are trying to help. I know that the shool counslers are annoying, but you do need some help. You may not see it right now but they can help you. Just let your parents and friends help you. It will make things alot easier, and may end up saving your life because right now you're really hurting yourself.
Please realize that these people care about you and I know you can get through this!
2006-11-26 23:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie219 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever think your alone in this dreadful illness. I as a parent would want someone to let me know if my child has what you have going on. You do need help and you can get healthy again with time, patients, and the right doctor to help you, also some beneficial counciling. If you don't get the help you need, you could endanger your body more and possibly die. Please think about it.
They can find out the root of the problem. I wil pray for you.
Lori
2006-11-27 00:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by smplylori32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your friend came foward she was only trying to help. Just try it out and see how it works. I know it is scary. It sounds like your friend cares alot about you. Your parents do as well. Bulimia is a serious condition and if left untreated can KILL YOU!! Don't you think that you owe it to yourself, your friend and your parents to do what it takes to recover and stay alive?? If you don't think the counselor that they gave you is working then ask them to find another counselor who can help you. Keep trying til you get the help you need. Also I don't know what you believe about religion but I am here to tell that God can help if you ask him to. Our family prays everynight together and we will keep you in our prayers. I think that you owe it to yourself and those that love you to do what it takes to stay alive and be healthy. The dead no nothing!! It is the living that have to suffer. Don't do that to your friends and family.
2006-11-27 00:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by lita ozzy bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nikki,
By being bulimic you are killing yourself in a bad way. Do you think your loved ones, including your best friend, want to see you go through that?????
Go to the rehab center and get help. This is being done to you because so many people love you.
2006-11-26 23:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bulimia is a form a suicide . . . what do you expect ?
They are working with the tools they have and a recovery center is probably the most realistic option to keep you out of the funeral home (plus the hospital is going to be a real gross experience when your organs start shutting down . . . before you make it to the funeral home)
But it is really up to you . . . recovery center OR gross hospital stay & trip to funeral home ?
2006-11-27 00:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋