this girl in my family is ALWAYS picking on me whenever i'm around her. she doesn't talk to me, she ignores me, and acts like i don't matter or exist or that i'm not important. this used to not bother me at all, but for the past few years it's really taken its toll on me. i've gained weight, become bulimic, started smoking and drinking heavily, and i've lost half the vision in my right eye from stress! what do i do? she will not leave me alone no matter what, and whenever i try to ignore her, it doesn't matter, she picks on me anyway---in fact, even more! i do not want to die, but i don't want to live my life this way anymore, either. i just want things back to the way they used to be, when she didn't matter in my life. most of the time i have trouble sleeping, too. when i wake up she's on my mind, and when i go to bed she's on my mind. i've tried eveything
2006-11-26 15:40:21 · 12 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You say this girl picks on you. But then you say she ignores you, doesn't talk to you and acts like you don't matter.
How is that picking on you. If she ignores you that should only be a minor irritation that you can get over.
It's not like she is throwing stuff at you or calling you names!
Bulimic people don't gain weight, they lose so I fear you are not certain what you mean.
If you have started smoking and drinking that is your fault don't blame your cousin. YOU CHOSE TO DO THAT.
It sounds to me like you need professional help or this whole thing is just one big made up bunch of nonsense....
2006-11-26 16:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Harley Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok sweetie, you need to relax. You really need to let your emotions out. I think you're holding them in and it is really hurting you. Talk with one of your parents or another relative who knows this girl. It sounds like you could probably take you cousin. If getting your parents involved doesn't help, for what ever reason, you might want to consider popping your cousin in the mouth. She is verbally abusing you and obviously has some deep issues she needs to deal with. If things don't get better I would involve the police and maybe a personal protection order (restraining order). But that would be pretty extreme. Try talking first.
2006-11-26 15:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please. She is either picking on you or ignoring you. Which is it? No one can tell you how to feel that is your choice.
You don't say how old you are but, you can not blame your bad choices on someone else. She did not tell you to overeat, smoke drink or anything else.
Take responsibility for your life. stop trying to recruit people to feel sorry for you and get some help if you can't face up to your own insecurities. There will always be someone in your life who thinks you are inferior or not up to their standards.
Why not take a voe o succed and get off the "woe is me" bandwagon.
You are the only one who can get yourself together, and if you need help there is no shame in asking for it.
Just do it.
2006-11-26 15:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Smurfetta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to talk to her, ask her why is she treating you like that. If she is still ignoring you, why not ask her parents what is her problem with you?
And my advice to you, just don't mind her at all. Is she your only cousin? Is she the only person in this world that means to you that if she ignores you, you will die? Will you cease to exist if she ignores you?
If your answer to any of the questions above is no, then get a hold of yourself. Let it pass. But try to talk to her first, find out what's wrong. Maybe, she has a problem with herself and she is just putting it out on you.
2006-11-26 15:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by jocjac 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you are not around her. If she is coming over, make sure you have plans. You could also try talking to her, you are family. If she don't care about what you have to say, tease her about something that would really bother her and do it in front of a lot of people. She will probably leave you alone.
2006-11-26 15:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by r_finewood 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remember you are the best person in this world. No one should ever make you feel down or that you don't matter. You you feel great about your self it will show and those around you my try and bring you down DON'T let them. As my grandmother always told me always keep smiling and never let them see you cry or down
2006-11-26 15:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Vincent J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boochi Boo has the right idea!! kick butt is sometimes what it takes to establish a line in which you do not cross. sounds like she has a problem of social interaction? go and do the world a favor! retrain the little bi---tc--h
2006-11-26 16:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've given this girl power over you and you're the only one who can take it back.
You need to put her in a place in your mind, lock it up and throw away the key. She doesn't exist anymore.
I think you may suffer from depression....see a therapist
2006-11-26 15:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should get her out of your life completely you know.. out of sight out of mind.. try to avoid her as much as possible.. if not just let her know how you feel.. maybe she'll finally get that you don't want her in your life.. at least for now..
2006-11-26 15:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by coqueta19 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her how you feel, get human sympathy from her. if she really dosnt like you or care whats going on in your life, then she shouldnt be able to judge you.
2006-11-26 15:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Uriah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋