He's a great guy: handsome, smart, has his own house, etc. He says he loves me and is the 'luckiest guy in the world to have found me.' BUT, he's starting to take me for granted a lot lately.
First, I was not feeling well and he said he was going to come over and see if I needed anything and to make sure I was ok. He went out with his friends instead and got stinking drunk and mad at me later in the evening when I refused to come to his place because I was sick.
Second, he always asks me to come over and spend time with him and when I do I end up watching TV alone or eating alone upstairs because he's playing video games on his computer downstairs.
Third, he refuses to come to my place (double-bed and clean dishes) because he doesn't 'like' it, so I always end up going to his place which is a literal bachelor pad (dirty dishes and a single bed to boot).
He makes promises all the time but never follows through (promising dinner and then going out with friends instead).
2006-11-26 15:38:05 · 14 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't sound so great to me. Talk is cheap, his actions speak volumes. You deserve better. We woman always think we can change a guy, that is more Hollywood than true life. Find yourself a mature man who puts you above video games and getting drunk. You deserve better!
2006-11-26 15:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i felt like you were writing based on my relationship. I've been with my bf for 2 years as well and its so hard to get a hold of him at times. I too thought he was trying to end it or had found someone else. Yesterday i finally saw him after many days of not seeing him and i showed him my phone bill, with the many times i had called. I think having the evidence opened his eyes a bit more. I hope he mans up and does his part in the relationship. As for you, maybe giving him some space would help and it might make him miss you. He cant miss you if every few minutes your calling or texting. Ignore him the way he's done to you and when he calls asking whats going on, just say you learned how to play his game. If after many attempts he doesnt fix it then yes he is taking you for granted and no you do not deserve it
2016-05-23 07:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really dont know men live in their own world...and they always say what you want to hear even if they have no plan to follow through with it...men also are real good at taking girls for granted because they never think far enough ahead to think maybe you will be upset they just assume we will always be there...to top it off men dont think like women as you should know...men dont hang on every word, they dont discuss many things in their lives, and they just talk to talk most of the time...men never stop and wonder "gee" i wonder how my girl feels or i wonder what my girl wants...if you let them get away with something once they will do it twice or more!!
2006-11-26 15:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try avoiding him for a few days and deffinately do not put out for him.When he asks you to come over tell him maybe and then do not show up,then give him some lame excuse.After not getting any for a few weeks,he should wise up.If this does not help then tell him that is time for you to move on.
2006-11-26 15:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by jlthomas75844 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep this relationship, leave him temporary and see whether his feelings/love for you has increased. If he really feels something for you, he will come running towards you; otherwise, just leave the relationship as it is. Be prepared for a breakup; likewise be prepared that the relationship will grow stronger. Be strong and decisive! Hope everything turns out fine :)
2006-11-26 18:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would run, not walk, run the other way from this guy. He sounds lazy and self-centered. He won't change and will probably get worse.
2006-11-26 15:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start making yourself not so easy available and see how he likes that. my friend does me like that. when hes at my house he is asleep but when he is at his home is is up and doing things. so i say the hell with these bastards.
2006-11-26 15:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meg, Why are you allowing this? Show some pride and dump him. You are too good for this!
2006-11-26 15:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by dragunov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you let him do like that to you????!!!!!! Can't you realize that he treat you like his slave!!! Wake up!!! You explain to him why he treat you like that and if he still with his behavior, just leave him!!! I also don't understand why there is still a people like you in this world who are so stupid!!! You are not a child anymore!!! So wake up!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-26 15:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN GIRL RUN!!!! HE WILL NEVER CHANGE AND WANT THINGS HIS WAY OR NO WAY! IF HES BREAKING PROMISES NOW HE WILL CONTIUE UNTIL YOU PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN. LIVE YOUR LIFE JUST AS HE DOES AND SEE HOW THINGS TURN OUT?
2006-11-26 15:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by sexkitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋