How many of you grew up without a dad?

Question

I was just wondering, how do you fell about it, and like have you faced a lot of sturggiles with this in your life?

I'm 15, and w/o a dad.

Answer 1

My mom and dad abandoned me when I was 8. My mom for abusive husbands and my dad when my stepmom kicked my dad, me and my brother out of the house and said he could come back when he got rid of his brats. I was raised by an aunt & uncle. My dad died when I was 16 so I never really got to know him & my uncle pretty much worked & didn't have much say in my life. I grew up to hold my emotions in so I wouldn't get hurt by those I loved. I grew up hurting that my dad didn't get to meet my husband & 2 kids. It was tough but I decided that I would do my best not to do the same to my children. They are 22 & 29 and we are still married for 32 years. So it shaped my life. I have been sad at times, but with Gods help I have overcome my bitterness and forgiven both my parents for not being parents. We all make mistakes & are all human so I hope my kids will forgive me for my mistakes with them. Sorry you are going through this, but not holding grudges and making the best of your life will make you the happiest.

Answer 2

I had a father part time What I mean by this is that I had my father until I was fourteen then I moved in my mother and because of certain things gave up all contact with my father. Yes I have had some struggels but I do not think I would have gotten this far with my father. I graduated from college and I have 2 sons of my own. my 1st sons father is never around but I make sure I am always there and he tells me too much sometimes lol. Also he does good in school and some he just need some reassurance just go give a big hug to a close relative that you feel comfortable to express your self with and you well move beyound the point of have a hard time.

Answer 3

In a way I did yes. I lost my Dad when I was 2, I am now 15 years old.
I do have a step Dad though, he's been in our family since I was 4 or 5. It's not the same though....

Sorry you grew up without a Dad...
Hope you feel about it.

Answer 4

My Dad died when I was 12. Prior to his death, he was always working or playing in a band - at the bar. He was also a drunk.

So, yeah, I miss(ed) having a dad. But the dad I had wasn't someone I miss. If he had lived, I still would have missed having a dad.

My husband is a workaholic. My 15 year old daughter misses having a dad, too. She has always gone days without seeing him because of the hours he works and then when she did see him, he was always mentally absent from having any kind of parental relationship with her.......cause she was "just a girl".

Answer 5

I grew up without a dad and he died when I was 16. I really wish I knew him better but I try to think positive about him. He had emotional issues and I think that if he was here today our relationship would be different. I might have been part of the problem as well. So leave yourself open.

Answer 6

i grew up without my father. i don't really feel anything about it because in the end even if your father was around he isn't what causes you to live your life the way you do. only you can control the way you live your life.

what i got to see and know of my dad, did actually change my life. i told myself that i did not want to end up like him. not seeing him might have changed things but in me it was for the better.

don't look for the losses between the two of you. think of the things you have gained. how you grew up such a good person without your dad. not needing any help to turn out as good as you did.

Answer 7

It appears you dont have one and miss him. Even if the father is around there are situations he is abusive, irresponsible, alcohalic, interfearing or having a second wife. There can be a good father and the life may be smooth. But it is very rare. In most cases even if the father is loving parents may separate. The modern world is abusive to children. Very rarely a child gets a normal family life. But modern world has given us lot of freedom and comforts. So be happy with what you have.

Answer 8

I grew up without a Dad, I met him finally when I was 18. I never really thought about it growing up. I never saw myself as different from other kids. I just didn't have a Dad.

Answer 9

I grew up without a dad...and i`m 30...til this day i still struggle with relationships...I don`t know whats normal or not...i had no one to watch...My mother was amazing and made up for the lack of male infulence....but as i`m older...i do notice a difference. Be strong.....i do know what u are going through

Answer 10

How can you get the real figure, when only those who participates here will be able to tell you, I grew up only with my mom, and yes i have to go with the hardshape, to have a succeed life, but I believe those who grow up with both parents also in one way another they face a problem.