Every year just as soon as it gets cold outside he gets a pnoumia. He walks around his house with a cell phone claiming that sometime he can't make it to his real house phone. He hides his medicine in a cabanet that nobody can get to. He has bleach in his bathroom. He always has nice houses and money. We are not that close because he always lie to me about everything. He is bi-sexual. I am becoming a medical assistant so that I can find out more infomation. I also wanted to know If I worked in the hospital would I be able to pull up his chart ? and find out the truth because this is something that he will never tell me. Me and my mother went to see him because he was in the hospital with pnomonia and he waited until the last day to tell me that he had a blood transfusion, when we got to his house my mother said that he has a mask ( she said that she would know because she was a HHA and she had to deal with AIDS patients) Please help.
2006-11-26 15:30:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Infectious Diseases
first of all that is not the only reason I am becoming a medical assitant, that is one and for two what if was one of your parents that you thought this about how would you feel. It is my business because he is my father, would it be your business if it were your father?
2006-11-26 17:10:20 · update #1
first of all he is human. I can understand why he is ashamed of let others know his problem (I respect that). I think the point is not to find if he has aids but to let him know that you are open to anything possible and willing to support him. That is the most important thing. No one ask to be or to get sick it could happen to anybody so now what is the solution?
I you are working in a hospital and are getting trained for. you should know the options (saliva and blood test) but before anything think about in a good communication. Open your heart and let him know that you care. I would think that if his is not hurting anyone else I think he deserves the right of his privacy even to his family members. Again, communication is the key.
2006-11-26 17:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by no ar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is the only reaon you are becoming a Medical Assistant you are going to have life diappointments in your career choice for it is a good choice if you want to help people have havehealthier lives and ease their suffering. Why Not ask your father-even though you say he always lies to you, ask anyway for can't lose anything and he may suprise you that with something so serious he'll tell truth.His Immune Sytem is more than likely weak, esp if he's had almost yearly bouts with Pneumonia-tell him of the Pneumonia Shot that is effective for 5years and protects against Pneumonia-used to get the Flu and then Pneumonia ever since I receive the Shot-no Pneumonia. Although Aids patients often get Pneumonia because their Immune System is shot they get it anytime because they are weakened and need no outside stimulis like Cold weather. No you would not have access to his medical chart only his doctor has and for the hospital to release the contents to anyone besides him need written permission from him to do so-even if he wished to see would have to send written permission to relese to him-there are very strict laws of Confidntiality ruling this.and breaking these laws is punishable through the court system-possible prison time. Its also not unusual to have bleach in the bathroom-I do and am not Hiv but clean my toilets,bathroom with bleach for kills 99%of all germs. and cheaper than bathroom cleaners. May be wearing the mask when cleaning to avoid inhaling chemicals-from bleach and th like and other things lik dust,lung irritants for having pneumonia that much can scar lungs and very weak lungs can cause hemorrages to occur.. If he had Aids related Pneumonia -if his Immune system is already so weakened then he'd be having other problems too like skin lesions-his health would be so bad that his appearance would tell something very wrong with him. Because he is a adult and his health is privileged and very protected by confidentiality laws there is no way for you to find out unless you confront him with your fears and state you need to know for your protection. I'm sure he knows that it is against the law to put people at risk if you have HIV if not inform him. Good Luck
2006-11-26 23:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you're concerned, HOWEVER-- It's none of your business. If he wanted you to know he would tell you. Some people get sick in the winter, he doesn't let you see his medicine because it's not you business to know. Who doesn't have bleach in their bathroom and if he is sick he wouldn't want his visitors to get sick so her wears a mask. You becoming a medical assistant just to be nosy is ridiculous, you'd be breaking the law by looking up people other than your patients. If you want to become one, then do it because you want to help people not because you're being nosy. Your mother shouldn't even be going along with this crap. It's an invasion of privacy. If you want to help then be a good daughter and visit all the time not just when he's sick. If he wants you to know, he'll tell you. If you did find out that he was, what would you do differently??? It shouldn't matter one way or the other. Would you want people snooping around in your business???
2006-11-26 23:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by NETTA M 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
First of all it is your dad's choice to tell or not what is wrong with him. I understand wanting to know, but he will tell when he's ready. If you work in a hospital and pull a chart just because you are curious, you can get in trouble because of privacy acts. Maybe he gets frequence pneumonia because he has crappy lungs and thats why he wears masks.
2006-11-26 23:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by kirsten j 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit down with him and try to talk to him, don't be pushy, if he has AIDS he probably didn't tell you because he thinks you will judge him, don't be judgemental what ever the truth is. Ask him to be honest and show him that you care about him and you are worried.
Good luck. This is going to be hard for both of you.
2006-11-26 23:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the best person to tell you about his condition would be him. let him know your concerns. and btw by pulling up information on him without his consent would be breach of confidentiality, especially if u confront him with ur findings. good luck :)
2006-11-26 23:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him! If he doesn't want you to know, then it is none of your business, but let him know that you care about him, and would like to help; unless you're just being nosy, then leave him alone...
2006-11-26 23:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by purplepartygirrl 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋